Summer Fling or The Real Thing?

Girl meets boy, girl falls for boy, girl wonders...is this the real thing? How can you tell if your Summer romance is going to make it through the season change and still be there once you start pulling out sweaters and Winter boots?

The truth is, sometimes you just can’t know if your summer fling is going to turn into a long term, “real” relationship. For that matter, why should you over analyze the longevity and potential of a new relationship if you are still just getting to know one another?

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Of course, no one wants to waste their time and start emotionally investing in a relationship that isn’t going to progress past the early new/fun stage. Which is why in order to be smart about your feelings it’s important to enjoy the moment and not get too caught up in what you’re summer fling could turn into down the road. That being said, at some point you are going to have to evaluate where your summer romance is going. Here are some questions to ask yourself:

Where did you meet?
There are just some places that you meet great men, while other locations are ripe with guys looking for just one thing. Sure, it’s not out of the question that the shmoozer buying you a drink at the bar is a really great guy looking to settle down, but there’s also a high chance he’s interested in one night only.

Is he responsive?
Taking weeks to get back to you, never calling back and not making an effort to actively fit into your schedule can be clear signals that this isn’t a long term commitment for him. He could just be swamped at work, but if he’s really interested in a relationship, he will always make the time.

Do you find yourself repeating things?
If you’re constantly having to remind him about major details in your life, like what you do or where you live, then he’s either really forgetful or possibly juggling multiple summer flings! But if he asks about how your sister’s exam went or sends your Aunt Millie a get well soon card after she has minor surgery, he’s taking more than just a vague interest – he truly cares about what’s going on in your life.

We…or me?
Even the way he puts sentences together can give you an indication of how he’s thinking. If you start to hear him talking about you two as a confirmed pair, then you know he’s got you in mind. If every sentence is “I” or “me” then he’s probably still only concerned with what he’s getting out of this summer romance.

Still not sure whether he’s really interested in a long term commitment? Relax, enjoy the sunshine and remember – if it doesn’t work out then there’s always next Summer’s romance anyway!

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