Comments on: Talking To Kids About Physical Violence http://www.blisstree.com/articles/talking-to-kids-about-physical-violence/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:21:59 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Ginger http://www.blisstree.com/articles/talking-to-kids-about-physical-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-185957 Ginger Sun, 22 Mar 2009 15:17:20 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/?p=67498#comment-185957 No judgment. I wish she would leave , but I understand the dynamics that make it so difficult. I agree it is not as simple as it seems. No judgment. I wish she would leave , but I understand the dynamics that make it so difficult. I agree it is not as simple as it seems.

]]> By: Michelle Smith http://www.blisstree.com/articles/talking-to-kids-about-physical-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-183806 Michelle Smith Fri, 20 Mar 2009 17:30:42 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/?p=67498#comment-183806 I suspect that many people are sitting in judgement of Rihanna right now - just leave, why doesn't she leave, etc. I wish that they would be more understanding of the situation, but at the same time, part of me envies their innocence. It's not that simple - abusers work over the mind as well as the body. Thanks for commenting, Ginger. I suspect that many people are sitting in judgement of Rihanna right now – just leave, why doesn’t she leave, etc. I wish that they would be more understanding of the situation, but at the same time, part of me envies their innocence.

It’s not that simple – abusers work over the mind as well as the body.

Thanks for commenting, Ginger.

]]> By: Ginger http://www.blisstree.com/articles/talking-to-kids-about-physical-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-183754 Ginger Fri, 20 Mar 2009 16:34:56 +0000 http://www.blisstree.com/?p=67498#comment-183754 Thanks for sharing this. Abuse starts with manipulation and words pushing you into a corner. It's not just an angry person hitting another. It is one person believing they have rights to do things, say things behave how they wish, but not allowing the partner to have the same rights. It seems so easy to say "I would never give someone a chance to hit me twice." but it's a sign that the abuser already was in control, long before the hitting, if the abused goes back. People don't realize that an abuser does not have an "anger problem." An anger problem is when someone loses control and suddenly gets angry. Abuser's are in full control of their anger. They USE it to get control of others. They know how to be charming, they know when hitting will control, they know what they are doing at all times. It is all calculated to get them what they want when they want it with the least amount of effort on their part. They always believe they had a right to do what they did. In the end the words and manipulation are far more subtle and damaging than hitting will ever be. ...and the law doesn't allow you to prosecute for that. So yes, warn your children. If a guy hits you, prosecute. protect yourself and any others he might want to harm in the future. Thanks for sharing this. Abuse starts with manipulation and words pushing you into a corner. It’s not just an angry person hitting another. It is one person believing they have rights to do things, say things behave how they wish, but not allowing the partner to have the same rights.

It seems so easy to say “I would never give someone a chance to hit me twice.” but it’s a sign that the abuser already was in control, long before the hitting, if the abused goes back.
People don’t realize that an abuser does not have an “anger problem.” An anger problem is when someone loses control and suddenly gets angry.
Abuser’s are in full control of their anger. They USE it to get control of others. They know how to be charming, they know when hitting will control, they know what they are doing at all times. It is all calculated to get them what they want when they want it with the least amount of effort on their part. They always believe they had a right to do what they did.

In the end the words and manipulation are far more subtle and damaging than hitting will ever be. …and the law doesn’t allow you to prosecute for that.

So yes, warn your children. If a guy hits you, prosecute. protect yourself and any others he might want to harm in the future.

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