Thanks MC – You Mean It’s Real? I’m Real? [Pink With Pink, Blue With Blue!]

Mary Christine got a nasty, stupid, “anonymous” comment the other day. Apparently she was waaaaay too real for someone else’s taste. Today MC responded with a wonderful post which basically says: I’m real, I feel and I’m not perfect. So anonymous – get over yourself!

MC, you’ve motivated me. There is a topic for which I have a “purple” passion and, no coincidences, was reminded of it distinctly just yesterday.

Pink With Pink, Blue With Blue!

Newcomers have been given the opportunity to live a sober life by a God who loves them. We are all newcomers once! Thirteenth Steppers Are Killers!

With all the deviousness of a terrorist a 13th stepper preys on his/her victim. A newcomer in a fog, fresh off the streets, is not thinking with a sober mind and needs the chance to let the fog clear. And you swoop down on them for what? Your own personal agenda?

One case in point was brought to me yesterday and the serious challenge, as usual, is the 13th steppers have developed, surrepticiously, a following supposedly based in the Big Book. And a word about that – if you’re going to private meetings in groups meeting at private homes being led by individuals who have taken AA out of “sanctioned” rooms, you’re opening yourself up for trouble!

Observe. Pay attention. Yes, the women have a responsibility to communicate clearly to women newcomers (works both ways) about those that they are certain have nothing more than lust in their hearts and walk the rooms of AA without a conscience! Men have a responsiblity to “police” themselves (works both ways) and lose the fear of confronting these same types!

What do you do though when these types have seemingly raised themselves above so many others and have afforded themselves undeserved respect? Hmmmmm? Powerless? No.

Carry The Message!

Speak out about these actions! Take the truth to the source! Here’s an example;

You – yeah you! The male who has been “sober” for 6 or 7 years and makes it a habit to seek out only the most attractive newcomers after meetings for discussions about recovery. This is barroom behavior. Gain their trust with smooth talking. You big hunky hero you… You’ll save them, won’t you? Then what? They’ll owe you, right?

Act as if you’re a Big Book guru. Folks, these people are easy to spot! They’ll show up late for a meeting (because they’re above you and I), amble over to the Big Book while you’re all watching (how lame), sit down and open the book up, then share. We think they’re important! They’re not! They’re attention seekers!

Leave the newcomer women to share with women after the meetings! You damn well know what I mean… And if you don’t like me (or anyone else) telling you about it then call your sponsor. There’s a step for that!