Comments on: The Attack on Marriage and Traditional Families http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Tue, 08 Dec 2009 11:16:14 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: steve http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/comment-page-1/#comment-84442 steve Fri, 19 Jan 2007 22:35:13 +0000 http://insidefatherhood.com/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families/#comment-84442 Jeremy that was a well thought out response. I understand your last assessment but traditional families are considered traditional because the "were" normal. Among those traditional families there weren't a lot of variance when it came to dynamics. Same old song and dance. Good comment and welcome to IF :D Jeremy that was a well thought out response. I understand your last assessment but traditional families are considered traditional because the “were” normal. Among those traditional families there weren’t a lot of variance when it came to dynamics. Same old song and dance.

Good comment and welcome to IF :D

]]> By: Jeremy Adam Smith http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/comment-page-1/#comment-84441 Jeremy Adam Smith Fri, 19 Jan 2007 22:28:35 +0000 http://insidefatherhood.com/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families/#comment-84441 Well, I certainly agree that it's nasty, impolite, and politically wrong-headed to make fun of any person for being part of a so-called traditional nuclear family (a form that actually emerged with the Industrial Revolution and was never natural or traditional, but anyway...). But let's be real: it's still much tougher, in many, many ways, to be a member of a so-called traditional family (which is a category with many subcategories, some of which are disadvantaged, most of which are just different, some of which might be stronger) and it much more common to be "attacked" (which takes forms from name-calling to passing laws, for example against gay marriage) for being non-traditional. I think megachick is right to say, "i think non-traditional followers who criticize traditional followers are exposing their bitterness or insecurity over being ridiculed themselves." Yes, I'd say that probably does happen. And look at how we're talking about it in this blog, tossing around terms like "normal" to describe ourselves -- defining ourselves as the baseline against which family should be measured. Think about it. Well, I certainly agree that it’s nasty, impolite, and politically wrong-headed to make fun of any person for being part of a so-called traditional nuclear family (a form that actually emerged with the Industrial Revolution and was never natural or traditional, but anyway…). But let’s be real: it’s still much tougher, in many, many ways, to be a member of a so-called traditional family (which is a category with many subcategories, some of which are disadvantaged, most of which are just different, some of which might be stronger) and it much more common to be “attacked” (which takes forms from name-calling to passing laws, for example against gay marriage) for being non-traditional. I think megachick is right to say, “i think non-traditional followers who criticize traditional followers are exposing their bitterness or insecurity over being ridiculed themselves.” Yes, I’d say that probably does happen. And look at how we’re talking about it in this blog, tossing around terms like “normal” to describe ourselves — defining ourselves as the baseline against which family should be measured. Think about it.

]]> By: steve http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/comment-page-1/#comment-84452 steve Fri, 19 Jan 2007 15:19:02 +0000 http://insidefatherhood.com/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families/#comment-84452 Sophie, nice blog you have there. I read down through that post and it sounds just like our situation here. Get your husband to stop by when he can. As for the first part of your comment, she was definitely speaking out of anger. :( Sophie, nice blog you have there. I read down through that post and it sounds just like our situation here. Get your husband to stop by when he can.

As for the first part of your comment, she was definitely speaking out of anger. :(

]]> By: Sophie http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/comment-page-1/#comment-84641 Sophie Fri, 19 Jan 2007 15:04:24 +0000 http://insidefatherhood.com/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families/#comment-84641 I found your blog through a link on Thrify Mommy's site. We, too, are a traditional family where my husband stays at home with our daughter and I work most days outside of the home. I agree with you: families start with love, not a politial statement. The woman you talked to sounds as if she is talking out of anger, not love. Anyway, I wrote a post about how we handle the SAHD thing. I'm the blogger, however, because I like computers more than my husband does. I will tell him to read your blog, though, because I think it would really help him. Thanks! http://holeinthefence.wordpress.com/2006/12/08/sahd-and-wohm-our-family-business/ I found your blog through a link on Thrify Mommy’s site. We, too, are a traditional family where my husband stays at home with our daughter and I work most days outside of the home. I agree with you: families start with love, not a politial statement. The woman you talked to sounds as if she is talking out of anger, not love.

Anyway, I wrote a post about how we handle the SAHD thing. I’m the blogger, however, because I like computers more than my husband does. I will tell him to read your blog, though, because I think it would really help him. Thanks!

http://holeinthefence.wordpress.com/2006/12/08/sahd-and-wohm-our-family-business/

]]> By: Thrifty Mommy - The traditional family hasn’t gone along the wayside for us http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/comment-page-1/#comment-84650 Thrifty Mommy - The traditional family hasn’t gone along the wayside for us Thu, 18 Jan 2007 17:17:54 +0000 http://insidefatherhood.com/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families/#comment-84650 [...] Sometimes, I find a blog post that strikes a chord with me.  Recently, Steve over at Inside Fatherhood had some very strong things to say about the traditional family.  My brother-in-law and his wife have decided that if one of them should choose to be a stay at home parent, my BIL will probably stay at home.  I admire that determination and think he would be an excellent stay at home dad. [...] [...] Sometimes, I find a blog post that strikes a chord with me.  Recently, Steve over at Inside Fatherhood had some very strong things to say about the traditional family.  My brother-in-law and his wife have decided that if one of them should choose to be a stay at home parent, my BIL will probably stay at home.  I admire that determination and think he would be an excellent stay at home dad. [...]

]]> By: steve http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/comment-page-1/#comment-84649 steve Thu, 18 Jan 2007 17:00:27 +0000 http://insidefatherhood.com/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families/#comment-84649 megachick, I agree. I am sure there are some exception but your last sentence seemed to pinpoint it for me. Being ridiculed themselves may have brought about rebellion and retaliation on the norm and society's mores. megachick, I agree. I am sure there are some exception but your last sentence seemed to pinpoint it for me. Being ridiculed themselves may have brought about rebellion and retaliation on the norm and society’s mores.

]]> By: megachick http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/comment-page-1/#comment-84652 megachick Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:12:08 +0000 http://insidefatherhood.com/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families/#comment-84652 so because we do something the traditional way, the way we feel comfortable, we're 'good ol' boys(or girls)' and, what?, not hip or cool to the latest trends? some people raise kids together and never get married, because they don't feel the need to establish that legal or spiritual connection. some people do. it is completely a matter of personal preference and no one should be ridiculed for their choices either way. i think non-traditional followers who criticize traditional followers are exposing their bitterness or insecurity over being ridiculed themselves. so because we do something the traditional way, the way we feel comfortable, we’re ‘good ol’ boys(or girls)’ and, what?, not hip or cool to the latest trends? some people raise kids together and never get married, because they don’t feel the need to establish that legal or spiritual connection. some people do. it is completely a matter of personal preference and no one should be ridiculed for their choices either way. i think non-traditional followers who criticize traditional followers are exposing their bitterness or insecurity over being ridiculed themselves.

]]> By: steve http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/comment-page-1/#comment-84426 steve Thu, 18 Jan 2007 12:40:13 +0000 http://insidefatherhood.com/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families/#comment-84426 Kate I think you are right and it doesn't really go much beyind that. Long Island Dad, I really thought you made some good points in your original article. And I don't think you are naive but society seems to be. Kate I think you are right and it doesn’t really go much beyind that.

Long Island Dad, I really thought you made some good points in your original article. And I don’t think you are naive but society seems to be.

]]> By: Kate http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/comment-page-1/#comment-84425 Kate Thu, 18 Jan 2007 12:32:14 +0000 http://insidefatherhood.com/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families/#comment-84425 I think families are built by love and loyalty, not by any other structure. I think families are built by love and loyalty, not by any other structure.

]]> By: Long Island Dad http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families-148/comment-page-1/#comment-84654 Long Island Dad Wed, 17 Jan 2007 19:22:12 +0000 http://insidefatherhood.com/the-attack-on-marriage-and-traditional-families/#comment-84654 First of all, thanks for the exposure Steve. Second, thanks for your insightful and thought provoking commentary on this issue. Especially the point regarding attacking the "norm" as a response to being shunned for so long. Maybe that's what I'm/we're doing now. Maybe we're just shedding light on an issue that seems to be undermining the fabric of our society; that everyone should be entitled to there own choices without fear of ridicule or judgment. Maybe, I'm just that naive. First of all, thanks for the exposure Steve. Second, thanks for your insightful and thought provoking commentary on this issue. Especially the point regarding attacking the “norm” as a response to being shunned for so long. Maybe that’s what I’m/we’re doing now. Maybe we’re just shedding light on an issue that seems to be undermining the fabric of our society; that everyone should be entitled to there own choices without fear of ridicule or judgment. Maybe, I’m just that naive.

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