Comments on: The [autistic] Child is father of the [autistic] Man http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Wed, 09 Dec 2009 05:48:18 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: DeeDee http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/comment-page-1/#comment-545275 DeeDee Thu, 27 Dec 2007 22:02:24 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/#comment-545275 I'm a mom of a nearly 11 year old autistic daughter. I don't read too much about autistic parental experiences that I care for. For some of the same reasons you listed about how people think that life is over or it's not worth trying after the child is past early intervention or that all autistic children are savants, or all that it takes for each of them is a diet change. Most things that some say changed their child completely do not work for my child. So most times I am left out. The way you wrote about Charlie brought tears to my eyes and reminded me of shopping with my daughter. I love to see the changes in my daughter. And I always think about the day that she will carry on a conversation with me, tell me how she feels or falls in love. I know those days will come. Thanks for writing to parents like me I’m a mom of a nearly 11 year old autistic daughter. I don’t read too much about autistic parental experiences that I care for. For some of the same reasons you listed about how people think that life is over or it’s not worth trying after the child is past early intervention or that all autistic children are savants, or all that it takes for each of them is a diet change. Most things that some say changed their child completely do not work for my child. So most times I am left out.

The way you wrote about Charlie brought tears to my eyes and reminded me of shopping with my daughter. I love to see the changes in my daughter. And I always think about the day that she will carry on a conversation with me, tell me how she feels or falls in love. I know those days will come.

Thanks for writing to parents like me

]]> By: Susan http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/comment-page-1/#comment-528555 Susan Tue, 03 Oct 2006 05:34:35 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/#comment-528555 Hi Kristina, This is my first time visiting her. I came via the Carnival of Family Life. That is such a good point about how children with Autism become adults with Autism and still need just as much support and attention. Thank you for the great reminder. Hi Kristina,

This is my first time visiting her. I came via the Carnival of Family Life.

That is such a good point about how children with Autism become adults with Autism and still need just as much support and attention.

Thank you for the great reminder.

]]> By: Play Library » Carnival of Family Life #21 at Play Library http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/comment-page-1/#comment-528543 Play Library » Carnival of Family Life #21 at Play Library Mon, 02 Oct 2006 12:50:45 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/#comment-528543 [...] Kristina Chew, mother of an autistic son and prolific autism blogger, shares two of her favorite posts - The [autistic] Child is father of the [autistic] Man and Of Course: Nearly Nine Years with Charlie (#316). If you’ve never read Kristina’s writing, you must go do so NOW. [...] [...] Kristina Chew, mother of an autistic son and prolific autism blogger, shares two of her favorite posts – The [autistic] Child is father of the [autistic] Man and Of Course: Nearly Nine Years with Charlie (#316). If you’ve never read Kristina’s writing, you must go do so NOW. [...]

]]> By: Julia http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/comment-page-1/#comment-527615 Julia Sun, 09 Jul 2006 04:09:25 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/#comment-527615 You don't give up. I see different sorts of progress from week to week. It's going to take years to get it all together, I'm sure. And I'm just trying to enjoy it right now. If there's some progress, and he's not miserable, I figure we're on the right track. (Misery seems to be related to how much grief he's getting from his siblings, which is how things are going for his sister, as well; she has the disadvantage of being the smallest, on top of it. His brother is more prone to being more frustrated with things, rather than people, but causes his fair share of misery in his siblings. They all love each other, but it's so hard to share toys and space sometimes!) You don’t give up.

I see different sorts of progress from week to week. It’s going to take years to get it all together, I’m sure. And I’m just trying to enjoy it right now. If there’s some progress, and he’s not miserable, I figure we’re on the right track. (Misery seems to be related to how much grief he’s getting from his siblings, which is how things are going for his sister, as well; she has the disadvantage of being the smallest, on top of it. His brother is more prone to being more frustrated with things, rather than people, but causes his fair share of misery in his siblings. They all love each other, but it’s so hard to share toys and space sometimes!)

]]> By: Ashley Morgan http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/comment-page-1/#comment-527610 Ashley Morgan Sat, 08 Jul 2006 02:51:21 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/#comment-527610 Oye Vey. Oye Vey.

]]> By: Autism Vox » Yes, it is age discrimination http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/comment-page-1/#comment-527602 Autism Vox » Yes, it is age discrimination Fri, 07 Jul 2006 20:21:57 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/#comment-527602 [...] So yes, I think that that Ontario government is discriminating against autistic children on the basis of age—-not that my “older” autistic child has not suffered age disrimination here in the USA. As I wrote on July 5th: In Autismland, I’m afraid we pay too much attention to children of a very young age. Charlie, as I have written on Autismland, has already (when he was at the ripe old age of eight) been the victim of age discrimination. Charlie learns best in certain highly-structured school settings that use a methodology called ABA (applied behavior analysis) and there are some schools (all very small) in New Jersey that specialize in this sort of autism education. We were not able to get three-year-old Charlie into one of these schools as we were living then in the Midwest and—-despite ample proof that Charlie thrives in an ABA setting—we have too often been told that “only three-year-olds” or “only children under the age of five” would be accepted. [...] [...] So yes, I think that that Ontario government is discriminating against autistic children on the basis of age—-not that my “older” autistic child has not suffered age disrimination here in the USA. As I wrote on July 5th: In Autismland, I’m afraid we pay too much attention to children of a very young age. Charlie, as I have written on Autismland, has already (when he was at the ripe old age of eight) been the victim of age discrimination. Charlie learns best in certain highly-structured school settings that use a methodology called ABA (applied behavior analysis) and there are some schools (all very small) in New Jersey that specialize in this sort of autism education. We were not able to get three-year-old Charlie into one of these schools as we were living then in the Midwest and—-despite ample proof that Charlie thrives in an ABA setting—we have too often been told that “only three-year-olds” or “only children under the age of five” would be accepted. [...]

]]> By: Ashley Morgan http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/comment-page-1/#comment-527592 Ashley Morgan Thu, 06 Jul 2006 22:22:07 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/#comment-527592 Wow. Pretty amazing! What a beautiful story. And I like what you said about never giving up. I've seen first hand children with a later diagnosis (7 years and 8 years) make huge ground with the right support. What makes me teary is this: I've listened, in shock, to parents that have made mental end dates to doing all they can to help their children. Really! Once I innocently asked a parent "what their child's services will be like next year, how are things going?". Their reply, right to my face "well, we're going to try everything for ONE more year, really push, and then that's it." That's it? Wow. Pretty amazing! What a beautiful story. And I like what you said about never giving up.
I’ve seen first hand children with a later diagnosis (7 years and 8 years) make huge ground with the right support.

What makes me teary is this: I’ve listened, in shock, to parents that have made mental end dates to doing all they can to help their children. Really! Once I innocently asked a parent “what their child’s services will be like next year, how are things going?”. Their reply, right to my face “well, we’re going to try everything for ONE more year, really push, and then that’s it.”

That’s it?

]]> By: Autism Vox » July Channel Theme Day: Children http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/comment-page-1/#comment-527584 Autism Vox » July Channel Theme Day: Children Thu, 06 Jul 2006 15:05:02 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/#comment-527584 [...] Kristina (moi) at Autism Vox writes about watching my son Charlie grow into a big boy—into an adult—at The [autistic] Child is father of the [autistic] Man. [...] [...] Kristina (moi) at Autism Vox writes about watching my son Charlie grow into a big boy—into an adult—at The [autistic] Child is father of the [autistic] Man. [...]

]]> By: Bald Man http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/comment-page-1/#comment-527583 Bald Man Thu, 06 Jul 2006 13:42:11 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/#comment-527583 Beautiful, Kristina. Simply beautiful to read. Beautiful, Kristina. Simply beautiful to read.

]]> By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/comment-page-1/#comment-527582 Kristina Chew, PhD Thu, 06 Jul 2006 12:05:19 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/the-autistic-child-is-father-of-the-autistic-man/#comment-527582 And your boy too, like his dad! And your boy too, like his dad!

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