Comments on: The Other F-Word http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-other-f-word-45/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Tue, 08 Dec 2009 11:16:14 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Michelle Smith http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-other-f-word-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38630 Michelle Smith Fri, 03 Oct 2008 14:50:24 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/the-other-f-word/#comment-38630 I do love hiking. I'm worried about his health, to be totally honest. I'm worried that if he doesn't make some changes, he's going to have a heart attack, he's already had some signs of high blood pressure. Your ex sounds like a horrible person. I do love hiking. I’m worried about his health, to be totally honest. I’m worried that if he doesn’t make some changes, he’s going to have a heart attack, he’s already had some signs of high blood pressure.

Your ex sounds like a horrible person.

]]> By: Lara Kulpa http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-other-f-word-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38660 Lara Kulpa Fri, 03 Oct 2008 09:39:41 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/the-other-f-word/#comment-38660 Tough subject for me. My ex used to call me "fat bitch" at least 40 times a day. He was fatter than me, and eventually we got into situations where we'd be in front of his family, he'd call everyone else fat, and then I'd say something like "Okay, mountain of mashed potatoes head. You look like someone squeezed your belly and bread dough popped out of your neck." It'd get a laugh, but it's not ME. It made me feel worse all together. Blech. Bottom line for me? I'm overweight. I know it, have known it all my life. Personally I don't need anyone to tell me. However, I would NEVER take a suggestion for a hike as a "you're fat, go exercise" statement. I love hikes, and nature, and of course, spending time with someone I care about. So I don't think it would even come into my mind that they wanted to convey anything other than the fact that they wanted to go hiking... with me. :) Tough subject for me. My ex used to call me “fat bitch” at least 40 times a day. He was fatter than me, and eventually we got into situations where we’d be in front of his family, he’d call everyone else fat, and then I’d say something like “Okay, mountain of mashed potatoes head. You look like someone squeezed your belly and bread dough popped out of your neck.”

It’d get a laugh, but it’s not ME. It made me feel worse all together. Blech.

Bottom line for me? I’m overweight. I know it, have known it all my life. Personally I don’t need anyone to tell me. However, I would NEVER take a suggestion for a hike as a “you’re fat, go exercise” statement. I love hikes, and nature, and of course, spending time with someone I care about. So I don’t think it would even come into my mind that they wanted to convey anything other than the fact that they wanted to go hiking… with me. :)

]]> By: Michelle Smith http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-other-f-word-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38838 Michelle Smith Thu, 02 Oct 2008 15:55:30 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/the-other-f-word/#comment-38838 "Honesty, tact, love, humor, and the "I" word...." Great advice, Kat. Thanks! “Honesty, tact, love, humor, and the “I” word….” Great advice, Kat. Thanks!

]]> By: Kat Wilder http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-other-f-word-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38850 Kat Wilder Thu, 02 Oct 2008 13:46:33 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/the-other-f-word/#comment-38850 The true test of any relationship is exactly that — how hard/easy is it to talk about the tough stuff. Why? Because thre will ALWAYS be tough stuff. You're two different people trying to make it together. That is never easy. Honesty, tact, love, humor and the "I" word are the best ways to approach tough stuff. "I'd love to do more hiking with you, honey. I want us to be healthier so we can be together forever. Can we do that?" Or "I've been thinking about the health problems your family and mine have had. I want to start making some healthy lifestyle decisions with you. What do you think?" All I know is this: if you start having "issues" you can't talk about with your partner, the couple i doomed. Good luck. The true test of any relationship is exactly that — how hard/easy is it to talk about the tough stuff. Why? Because thre will ALWAYS be tough stuff. You’re two different people trying to make it together. That is never easy.

Honesty, tact, love, humor and the “I” word are the best ways to approach tough stuff. “I’d love to do more hiking with you, honey. I want us to be healthier so we can be together forever. Can we do that?” Or “I’ve been thinking about the health problems your family and mine have had. I want to start making some healthy lifestyle decisions with you. What do you think?”

All I know is this: if you start having “issues” you can’t talk about with your partner, the couple i doomed. Good luck.

]]> By: Michelle Smith http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-other-f-word-45/comment-page-1/#comment-39033 Michelle Smith Wed, 01 Oct 2008 23:33:54 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/the-other-f-word/#comment-39033 Oh, but I call everyone fatass - it's my idea of a pet name. ;D Just kidding. It was my idea - I was nervous around him still and said, "Hey, how about a hike?" I love that ole death march. When you get to the top you can see almost all of Chico. I've run up and down it before, so it's not that bad. My mom did break her leg coming down it once, though. Okay, so it's hard on the bones, but fun up until that point. Oh, but I call everyone fatass – it’s my idea of a pet name. ;D Just kidding.

It was my idea – I was nervous around him still and said, “Hey, how about a hike?”

I love that ole death march. When you get to the top you can see almost all of Chico. I’ve run up and down it before, so it’s not that bad. My mom did break her leg coming down it once, though. Okay, so it’s hard on the bones, but fun up until that point.

]]> By: Leah http://www.blisstree.com/articles/the-other-f-word-45/comment-page-1/#comment-38888 Leah Wed, 01 Oct 2008 21:40:43 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/the-other-f-word/#comment-38888 Touchy subject for many relationships. Maybe a better way to approach it would be to suggest doing things that promote a healthier lifestyle. I know I'd be more inclined to go for a hike or something like that if someone said, "Hey, let's go for a hike." But if they said, "Hey fatass, let's get movin'" (I know that you wouldn't do that), I'd tell 'em to f-off...even though I know it would be beneficial. :) Who's idea was the Death March? I'm not hikin' with y'all! :) Touchy subject for many relationships. Maybe a better way to approach it would be to suggest doing things that promote a healthier lifestyle. I know I’d be more inclined to go for a hike or something like that if someone said, “Hey, let’s go for a hike.” But if they said, “Hey fatass, let’s get movin’” (I know that you wouldn’t do that), I’d tell ‘em to f-off…even though I know it would be beneficial. :) Who’s idea was the Death March? I’m not hikin’ with y’all! :)

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