The Teeny-bopper Mentality of Couples

I just learned that there is this particular mentality that a couple goes through in a relationship called “the teenager mentality”.

Defining the basic make up of the so-called mentality, the couple basically act like how teenagers are like when they enter a relationship. Seemingly new to the whole concept, so, everything is still sweet and romantic. They also have a tendency to close themselves off from the rest of the society and, of course, there’s a lot of drama involved within the relationship.

Age is not a sole contributing factor, which explains why it’s called that way. It’s a common misconception. It’s the actual orientation that these two people had prior to entering the relationship. Either they had a idealistic definition or romanticised notion of what it really is to be part of a couple, basing it from books, movies or examples that they’ve taken in only by face value.

And yea, individuals who are in their 20s and even some who are in their 30s, can actually enter into a relationship bringing this kind of mentality with them.

High Points:

• Everything’s fresh and sweet.
• Passion is evident.
• It’s filled with romance.
• You’ll learn from it.

Low Points:

• Intimacy is poorly developed.
• Communication is not optimised.
• Fights are petty and tiresome.
• Growth as a couple is slim to none.
• Lacks the kind of commitment that a mature relationship has.

Personally, I have to admit that this mentality opened up opportunities to experience the fun side of the relationship but it also caused a lot of hurt in the process. I reckon it comes with the territory and most relationships go through that. However, knowing what you’re going into is better than foolishly and blindly taking the leap “just because”. Call me pragmatic and a cynic. Heh.

What about you? What are your thoughts on the matter? Is this something you experienced first hand, too?