Comments on: The Warning Signs When Life Stresses Catch Up – Part 2

By: Sue Doe-Nim

Sue Doe-Nim — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 01:08:50 +0000

I had that once.

Ended up in the ER convinced I was dying.

Yoga darlin’.

By: Gayla McCord

Gayla McCord — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 22:11:50 +0000

I’ve always had a difficult time telling people no. I take care of things for my parents when they need it – oversee my brother and some of his activities because, well, he’s a guy and makes guy type decisions that aren’t always the wisest. Then my family – husband, kids etc.

Sometimes it’s just too much.

My husband did admit that he and everyone else keeps relying on me for everything because I seem so “capable” – but I stressed to him that I’m NOT capable really. I’m just programed to do what I gotta do and if I feel my family needs me to do something – I will push myself to accomplish it.

The best my family can do – is not count on me to say no because that won’t happen. It’s better to just not ask to begin with

By: homemom3

homemom3 — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 21:59:18 +0000

I have two areas in which I deal with stress. One you already know and the other is my side of the family. Many people don’t realize or they do but simply ignore thinking it can’t get bad but dealing with the pressures of your family or his family can really take a toll on you, if you aren’t careful. Growing up I was always the type of daughter that would do ANYTHING I was told. I put up with a lot of things from my past, which are now ghosts which come out to haunt me from time to time.

For me my stress stems from disapproval from my side. I’ve decided that I no longer care about whether or not I will ever get an approval, it’s just not something that will happen. There will always be something else I can approve on. I can’t deal with the arguing and no longer will, I dread the phone ringing these days. So I’ve decided that until everyone will LAY OFF I’m done. I will not be answering the phone, emails or IMS for my own sake. I end up getting the shakes really bad when I deal with stuff like this and for that I won’t keep putting myself, my kids or my own body through. While I’ve never experienced a “heart attack” I do know the “shakes” can lead to passing out and as a mother of four that’s just not possible.

By: kadi

kadi — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 20:53:47 +0000

My prayers are with you. Just breathe…and take one day at a time.

By: Jan - queenofkaos

Jan - queenofkaos — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 20:27:19 +0000

I think you nailed it when you said you can’t be everything to everyone, that even includes yourself – meaning that you can’t always do everything you want to do, especially these days when there is so much to choose from.

I am still a tad overloaded, but my constant anxiety has reduced over the past year as I’ve made a conscious effort to reduce everything and to choose a few priorities to focus on – the top priorities being my home and family and my health.

I remind myself of this every day when I find myself stressing that I’m not doing ‘other things’.

We only live once as you know, and I don’t want to have any regrets.

My mantra these days is ’simplify’.

Every step I take in that direction is the right one!