Three myths of compatibility

Myth #1: Similar people are more compatible

There is no evidence that very similar couples are more likely to have lasting, loving relationships, with one exception. If you have very traditional ideas about marriage, family, and gender roles, research suggests you’ll probably be more satisfied with a partner who shares these beliefs.

Myth #2: Compatible couples enjoy each other’s company and don’t fight

All couples have fights. They typically fight about the same things too: money, kids, and sex. Contrary to what most self-help books will tell you, many very happy couples fight all the time.

Myth #3: You can tell within the first few dates if your date is compatible

The article that discusses these three myths brings up some interesting points on “initial attraction” and “chemistry” – I can certainly understand there are times when it may take several months or even years for a couple to know whether or not they are compatible, but for me, I’ve always been able to tell right away whether the relationship was even worth pursuing.

I’ll give them the first two myths, but as for number three, I’m holding out that people DO know, oftentimes, in the first date or two if they are going to be seeing a third, forth or tenth date.