Comments on: Tips on Handling Arguments http://www.blisstree.com/articles/tips-on-handling-arguments-45/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Tue, 08 Dec 2009 21:37:21 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Sasha Manuel http://www.blisstree.com/articles/tips-on-handling-arguments-45/comment-page-1/#comment-37222 Sasha Manuel Sun, 17 Dec 2006 16:27:24 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/tips-on-handling-arguments/#comment-37222 I couldn't agree with you more. :) It's pretty straight forward and sensible. If couples start the "fight" with answering that question, there's a higher chance of reaching an end to the dispute with less pain and effort that usually accompany arguments. Thanks for sharing that, Madalayne! I couldn’t agree with you more. :)

It’s pretty straight forward and sensible. If couples start the “fight” with answering that question, there’s a higher chance of reaching an end to the dispute with less pain and effort that usually accompany arguments.

Thanks for sharing that, Madalayne!

]]> By: Madalayne http://www.blisstree.com/articles/tips-on-handling-arguments-45/comment-page-1/#comment-37219 Madalayne Sun, 17 Dec 2006 09:55:20 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/tips-on-handling-arguments/#comment-37219 I like your ideas, they are very sane! People who try to have a game plan for fighting are more successful than folks who just shoot from the hip and go for blood. From my work as a therapist, I think the most important question to answer as soon as you realize you're having an argument is - 1. Are we going to come up with a solution we can both live with, or 2. Are we going to just spend all our energy trying to convince each other to "Do It My Way"? If you're with someone who keeps choosing option 2, it's worth questioning if this is a relationship where you're going to be happy. I like your ideas, they are very sane! People who try to have a game plan for fighting are more successful than folks who just shoot from the hip and go for blood.

From my work as a therapist, I think the most important question to answer as soon as you realize you’re having an argument is -

1. Are we going to come up with a solution we can both live with, or

2. Are we going to just spend all our energy trying to convince each other to “Do It My Way”?

If you’re with someone who keeps choosing option 2, it’s worth questioning if this is a relationship where you’re going to be happy.

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