Comments on: To Tell or Not To Tell http://www.blisstree.com/articles/to-tell-or-not-to-tell-45/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Mon, 21 Dec 2009 21:14:49 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Tracee http://www.blisstree.com/articles/to-tell-or-not-to-tell-45/comment-page-1/#comment-37433 Tracee Tue, 17 Jul 2007 11:59:04 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/#comment-37433 I had this experience. I told. They married anyway. It deeply effected the relationship and they eventually got a divorce. But, I wasn't a "participant" by keeping the secret for the cheating partner. Whether they decide to waste 5 years on giving it a shot is not up to me. But, at least telling gave me a clear conscience. I once found out that a friend had befriended me to get closer to my husband who she had a crush on. Turns out lots of our other friends knew about her obsession with him. I have no doubt that my husband didn't return her affection, but the thing that pissed me off was all our friends who knew her "motives" for being my friend. They never told me and I'm still kind of mad about it. I don't trust them anymore and basically am not interested in restoring the previous level of intimacy with any of them. They are obviously not interested in "my best interest." Therefore, I shouldn't invest my time and energy in being friends with them. I say you should never participate in someone else's marriage and that includes keeping secrets for a cheating spouse. Especially if it's your "friend" whose being cheated on. What kind of "friend" is okay with you marrying a cheater? No kind I want. I had this experience. I told. They married anyway. It deeply effected the relationship and they eventually got a divorce. But, I wasn’t a “participant” by keeping the secret for the cheating partner.

Whether they decide to waste 5 years on giving it a shot is not up to me. But, at least telling gave me a clear conscience.

I once found out that a friend had befriended me to get closer to my husband who she had a crush on. Turns out lots of our other friends knew about her obsession with him. I have no doubt that my husband didn’t return her affection, but the thing that pissed me off was all our friends who knew her “motives” for being my friend.

They never told me and I’m still kind of mad about it. I don’t trust them anymore and basically am not interested in restoring the previous level of intimacy with any of them. They are obviously not interested in “my best interest.” Therefore, I shouldn’t invest my time and energy in being friends with them.

I say you should never participate in someone else’s marriage and that includes keeping secrets for a cheating spouse. Especially if it’s your “friend” whose being cheated on. What kind of “friend” is okay with you marrying a cheater? No kind I want.

]]> By: Close Personal Friend? http://www.blisstree.com/articles/to-tell-or-not-to-tell-45/comment-page-1/#comment-37491 Close Personal Friend? Thu, 12 Jul 2007 21:00:04 +0000 http://www.datingdames.com/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/#comment-37491 The first time I told a "Friend" a fight ensued and it wasn't nice. The second time I confronted a friend about a similar situation he took it well (maybe he didn't believe or didn't want to believe). He did marry her and it lasted a few years yet he finally caught her and that was that. The first time I told a “Friend” a fight ensued and it wasn’t nice. The second time I confronted a friend about a similar situation he took it well (maybe he didn’t believe or didn’t want to believe). He did marry her and it lasted a few years yet he finally caught her and that was that.

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