Top 10 Mistakes Single Women Make
March 12, 2009 by Aly Walansky
Filed under Relationships
It sucks to be single sometimes, and basically because most of us girls are absolutely CLUELESS about men. Author Nicholas Aretakis was kind enough to help me out with his list of the top 10 mistake us single girls make.
1. Dating a guy for superficial reasons—such as looks, money, or prestige.
2. Failing to do a background check on your “hot prospect.”
3. Committing to a guy too early, before you really get to know him.
4. Not treating the quest to find a lifelong partner and potential father for your children as a serious, priority pursuit.
5. Putting all your focus on the relationship, while ignoring your own social network and support group.
6. Removing yourself from “the field” too quickly in a relationship, thus cutting off exposure to better prospects.
7. Staying in a bad relationship far too long, ignoring the early warning signs.
8. Compromising career and personal goals to accommodate your man.
9. Trying to change him, or believing you can.
10. Hitting the “baby panic” (or the “lonely panic”) button and settling for less than you deserve.
Want more tips? Nicholas Aretakis is author of Ditching Mr. Wrong: How to End a Bad Relationship and Find Mr. Right (Next Stage Press, www.DitchingMrWrong.com).
The book is a fabulous handbook to recognizing you are with the wrong guy to identifying the characteristics of the right one, and begins with a comprehensive checklist—the “Dating Litmus Test”—where women are able to make an analytical analysis based on their personal value system of whether the guy has the potential to be a long-term mate!
Up your Mr. Wrong radar!!! SIX readers will win a copy. To have your chance to win, please comment and tell me the biggest mistake you have made as a single girl. Deadline April 1.
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Biggest mistake is not being able to let go and leave a bad situation. I just stayed way too long hopeing for change and deluding myself that things weren’t as bad as they really were.
A serious case of head in sand syndrome.
I agree with women ignoring the early signs of a bad boyfriend. Why do women do this? It’s the power of small that works here. When you go out with someone, you have to pay attention to the little details about him. Don’t start thinking about the future or if the guy is husband material. Rather, focus on the way he treated the waitress, if he opened the door, if he allowed you to speak, if he was concerned about whether your meal was correct… all those little things that tell you something about his personality.