Comments on: Treat Me Right

By: jackie

jackie — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 16:05:17 +0000

I couldn’t agree with you more. Why do we settle for someone who treats us like crap. Noone deserves to be hidden away. Good enough to be in bed with but not good enough to be seen with in public. Women try to be fixers of sort. We want to just love somebody and make it all right for them. News flash to me–when I finally realized that no matter how much you give to a person if they are not into you it will not make it right. If you are alone and wanting to settle I say go buy a puppy if you do not have kids to smother with all your love. At least a dog is always there for you and loves you no matter what you do.

By: Michelle Smith

Michelle Smith — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 17:18:10 +0000

Barista, I read your comment three times. I get the impression that something hurtful must have happened and that’s why you are no longer dating. The whole warm body thing doesn’t really work for most women. It’s a great theory and something that I’ve tried myself, but it can be somewhat hollow in practice. Maybe when you are young, but at a certain point, I think we are just looking for something more and if there is not a connection of some sort there, there’s a chance you will feel more alone than ever.

I think it’s wise to wait, to give yourself a break, which is very hard for some people. If it doesn’t sound too horrible, maybe it’s time to give it some thought again. There are some good guys out there. They aren’t all already taken.

You can still have your no BS attitude, which is a good one, and one that is advocated by the whole He’s Just Not That Into You school of though. Be smart, but be open. Good luck!

By: Michelle Smith

Michelle Smith — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 17:08:53 +0000

Blane, I very much enjoyed your column. I went right over there and signed up.

By: Barista

Barista — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 10:49:11 +0000

I totally agree, which is why I have now been single for 2 years. I refuse to put up with any crap. That having been said, being single for 2 years is why there are days I wonder if it might just be worth putting up with a little bs to have a warm body in my bed. Surely not someone I wasn’t attracted to or who didn’t want to be seen in public with me (OUCH!), but maybe someone I wouldn’t see myself dating long-term………after all this time it doesn’t really sound horrible.

By: Michelle Smith

Michelle Smith — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 05:42:05 +0000

Thanks Leah. If you seem in trouble again, though, don’t hold back, please.

By: Blane Bachelor

Blane Bachelor — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 04:07:34 +0000

Hi there. Tried to post earlier but it didn’t go through. Just wanted to say thanks for the plug, Michelle! Anyone who wants more of my kind of advice, please sign up for my weekly column, delivered hot, fresh and free right to your inbox. Sign up at http://www.askabachelor.com.

Thanks again and cheers to all the fellow Muppet fans out there.

By: Leah

Leah — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 22:03:41 +0000

Unfortunately, I was there too. YEARS ago…and since have realized – after many years in a good, loving relationship – that it’s WAY better to be alone than to be with an a**hole who doesn’t really give a crap about you. And to all the girls who are in that situation now, RUN. RUN LIKE THE WIND away from him. Not only are you cheating yourself out of being truly loved, but maybe you’re missing that one guy who is THE one.

P.S. I’ve got your back, Michelle. But I think, so far, you’re on the right track with this one.