Comments on: Trying to Be Pretty Good Neighbors http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Fri, 25 Dec 2009 00:31:23 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/comment-page-1/#comment-563320 Kristina Chew, PhD Mon, 29 Sep 2008 06:01:35 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/#comment-563320 @Lisa, Hi---have you tried to speak to them about it at all? I need to think on this more and have to say I really appreciate your query. I suspect that just saying "the noise has to stop"---however much that is the case (I am sure the family wishes it would, too)---may not help. I'm inclined to think that the family is trying, and that it is very hard. Perhaps acknowledging this might be a way to start a conversation and note the noise in the course of it?-----I will write more. @Lisa,
Hi—have you tried to speak to them about it at all? I need to think on this more and have to say I really appreciate your query. I suspect that just saying “the noise has to stop”—however much that is the case (I am sure the family wishes it would, too)—may not help. I’m inclined to think that the family is trying, and that it is very hard. Perhaps acknowledging this might be a way to start a conversation and note the noise in the course of it?—–I will write more.

]]> By: lisa http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/comment-page-1/#comment-563260 lisa Sun, 28 Sep 2008 18:52:10 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/#comment-563260 How can we approach our neighbors about the noise coming from their autistic child without offending them? We live in a duplex condo and share an adjoing wall. Lisa How can we approach our neighbors about the noise coming from their autistic child without offending them? We live in a duplex condo and share an adjoing wall.

Lisa

]]> By: Neighbor Allegedly Threatens Autistic Boy http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/comment-page-1/#comment-560270 Neighbor Allegedly Threatens Autistic Boy Fri, 25 Jul 2008 02:09:41 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/#comment-560270 [...] not world’s best (quietest) neighbors, but it’s never come to that. Tags: asd, asperger, autism, autism blog, Crime, disabilities [...] [...] not world’s best (quietest) neighbors, but it’s never come to that. Tags: asd, asperger, autism, autism blog, Crime, disabilities [...]

]]> By: Noises and Noisy Is As Noisy Sounds http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/comment-page-1/#comment-552381 Noises and Noisy Is As Noisy Sounds Sun, 06 Jul 2008 09:16:27 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/#comment-552381 [...] my going out with him. I certainly don’t wear high heels at home (or at all, actually) and we try, but some noise is inevitable. Jim and I have felt that the best thing to do is to move, but with [...] [...] my going out with him. I certainly don’t wear high heels at home (or at all, actually) and we try, but some noise is inevitable. Jim and I have felt that the best thing to do is to move, but with [...]

]]> By: Navi http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/comment-page-1/#comment-557935 Navi Sun, 15 Jun 2008 17:06:41 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/#comment-557935 Our current neighborhood is really nice, and everyone is very friendly, and understanding. We lived in an apartment a few years ago, and my son would kick the metal heaters. and my upstairs neighbor complained that I couldn't control my son. I started putting mattresses against it (they were the steam vent heaters, so it wasn't a fire risk)... then the same neighbor is doing tae bo or something on an evening when the kids are going psycho and my husband wasn't feeling well... thump.. thump.. thump.. thump.. thump.. thump.. (I had to have their godmom come over and help because I was practically having an anxiety attack) a few months later, the neighbor catches up to me and apologizes, now his son is 18 months old and doing all sorts of crazy things and he understands you can't always 'control' a kid... Our current neighborhood is really nice, and everyone is very friendly, and understanding.

We lived in an apartment a few years ago, and my son would kick the metal heaters. and my upstairs neighbor complained that I couldn’t control my son. I started putting mattresses against it (they were the steam vent heaters, so it wasn’t a fire risk)… then the same neighbor is doing tae bo or something on an evening when the kids are going psycho and my husband wasn’t feeling well… thump.. thump.. thump.. thump.. thump.. thump.. (I had to have their godmom come over and help because I was practically having an anxiety attack) a few months later, the neighbor catches up to me and apologizes, now his son is 18 months old and doing all sorts of crazy things and he understands you can’t always ‘control’ a kid…

]]> By: Andrea http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/comment-page-1/#comment-555225 Andrea Mon, 09 Jun 2008 19:14:28 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/#comment-555225 Oh it is hard to find good neighbors...and even harder to be one! We lucked into 2 retired special ed teachers when we moved in to this house 7 years ago. They made it quite welcoming but have since left. So many stories to tell... the good the bad and the ugly...http://www.autismunplugged.blogspot.com/search/label/neighbor Oh it is hard to find good neighbors…and even harder to be one! We lucked into 2 retired special ed teachers when we moved in to this house 7 years ago. They made it quite welcoming but have since left. So many stories to tell… the good the bad and the ugly…http://www.autismunplugged.blogspot.com/search/label/neighbor

]]> By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/comment-page-1/#comment-558687 Kristina Chew, PhD Mon, 09 Jun 2008 06:11:44 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/#comment-558687 @Marla, I was thinking of you and your neighbors when I wrote this! @abfh, the guy downstairs is not happy with us. @mayfly, I think one reason for moving is just to feel less stressed -- I still have a lot of my books and things in bags and boxes as it is. @Marla, I was thinking of you and your neighbors when I wrote this!

@abfh, the guy downstairs is not happy with us.

@mayfly, I think one reason for moving is just to feel less stressed — I still have a lot of my books and things in bags and boxes as it is.

]]> By: mayfly http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/comment-page-1/#comment-554619 mayfly Mon, 09 Jun 2008 05:49:17 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/#comment-554619 When we lived in an upstairs condo our daughter's continual stomping and daily upturning of tables drove our downstairs neighbors crazy. Our attempts to stop it only seemed to result i more. One night after our daughter was in bed, the smoke alarm went off. I went to check and saw a cloud of steam. The trail led to the bathroom where she had turned on the hot water faucet. The water on the floor was inches deep. I went down and woke up the neighbors who had retired early. A sheet of water was falling from their y ceiling. This and being told by her teacher, "No one wants to work with your daughter" convinced us we had to move. We overpaid for the house, the agent said the could convince the seller not to put in one the market, but to offer it to us. We knew renting an option, and we wanted a single story out of concern for our daughter's safety. We paid for the house as if it had been completely remodeled, when the owners had done nothing but cosmetics such as painting over wallpaper. Buying it was one of the best things we've done. The stomping lasted about a week. We didn't try to stop it and it soon became extinct. Also the stomping did not produce such a loud noise. But I think it was more dependent on my wife and me being able to relax instead of trying to stop the stomping so our neighbors could have some peace. When we lived in an upstairs condo our daughter’s continual stomping and daily upturning of tables drove our downstairs neighbors crazy. Our attempts to stop it only seemed to result i more.

One night after our daughter was in bed, the smoke alarm went off. I went to check and saw a cloud of steam. The trail led to the bathroom where she had turned on the hot water faucet. The water on the floor was inches deep. I went down and woke up the neighbors who had retired early. A sheet of water was falling from their y ceiling.

This and being told by her teacher, “No one wants to work with your daughter” convinced us we had to move.

We overpaid for the house, the agent said the could convince the seller not to put in one the market, but to offer it to us. We knew renting an option, and we wanted a single story out of concern for our daughter’s safety. We paid for the house as if it had been completely remodeled, when the owners had done nothing but cosmetics such as painting over wallpaper.

Buying it was one of the best things we’ve done. The stomping lasted about a week. We didn’t try to stop it and it soon became extinct. Also the stomping did not produce such a loud noise. But I think it was more dependent on my wife and me being able to relax instead of trying to stop the stomping so our neighbors could have some peace.

]]> By: abfh http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/comment-page-1/#comment-556219 abfh Mon, 09 Jun 2008 04:37:04 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/#comment-556219 One of my earliest memories is jumping on my bed with my sister, all sorts of gleeful thumping and bumping and giggling, until the guy in the downstairs apartment walked up the stairs and started banging on the door and shouting some very nasty stuff at my mom. One of my earliest memories is jumping on my bed with my sister, all sorts of gleeful thumping and bumping and giggling, until the guy in the downstairs apartment walked up the stairs and started banging on the door and shouting some very nasty stuff at my mom.

]]> By: Marla http://www.blisstree.com/articles/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/comment-page-1/#comment-558679 Marla Mon, 09 Jun 2008 03:46:03 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/trying-to-be-pretty-good-neighbors/#comment-558679 Yes! We have major neighbor problems here. Don't get me started! Ugh! Yes! We have major neighbor problems here. Don’t get me started! Ugh!

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