What’s your deal breaker?
May 15, 2006 by gayla
Filed under Relationships
We’ve all got them – regardless of whether they are petty or not. There are just some things that we can’t live with – no matter how hard a person tries to overcome them or tries to put their best foot forward.
In Deal Breakers: When Does Mr. Right Become Mr. Not-On-Your-Life? a quiz book by Michele Avantario and Maia Dunkel that’s designed to help you determine what your deal breakers are or uncover deal breakers you may not have realized existed.
The book is intended to bring humor to the sometimes painful art of dating but can certainly shine a light on some of those little quirks that dig under your skin and help you realize that perhaps you aren’t being as shallow as you thought.
Is he Mr. Right or Mr. Not-on-Your Life? (excerpt via Amazon)
For some women, it’s a moustache. For others, it’s a cheating heart. Whether you’re playing the field or are considering a trip down the aisle, you’ve got to determine whether to stick it out or move on in your pursuit of true love. Find out what your deal breakers are:
• You’re on your first date when you notice he’s had four glasses of wine before the entrée arrives. Deal breaker?
• You’ve been dating someone special and upon entering his apartment for the first time you notice a book called The Idiot’s Guide to Sex. Deal breaker?
• Your long-term boyfriend proposes and presents you with a stunning ring in a Tiffany’s box—and later you find out it’s a cubic zirconium. Deal breaker?
• You meet a cute guy at a bar, but the only number he’ll give you is his pager. Deal breaker?
• You’re looking forward to a romantic Valentine’s evening with your new beau. He picks you up at seven, and when you get in the car he says, “So, what’s the plan?” Deal breaker?
• You’re engaged to a man of another religion and it’s never been an issue in your relationship. One evening when you’re talking about having children, he tells you he expects the children to be raised in his faith. Deal breaker?
• One night after a few drinks your date lets you know he once had a passionate affair with a married woman. Deal breaker?
So what are some of your secret deal breakers? Brave enough to share?
LOL, too funny, and honestly reading those most of them were deal breakers to me. The valentine’s day has happened to me, and should have been a deal breaker, but I’d been with him for a year or more and didn’t get out till another year. I learned my lesson. Cheating, abusing (physical or emotional), beyond social drinker, and things along those lines are deal breakers for me.
At least you have the ability to recognize those faults and call them deal breakers.
God bless those people who are so blinded by love and can’t see them at all.
I’m right there with you in having experienced most of those deal breakers. It sure didn’t take long for me to build my deal breaker list
A friend on another blog site brought up a topic of unconditional love lately, asking rather it exist and if it does then doesn’t that mean that if someone so stabbed you but you lived you’d forgive them due to unconditional love? It was very thought provoking. A lot of people who did think unconditional love exist mentioned people who stay in abusive relationships. Many of them didn’t think or want to talk about god’s unconditional love, which is what I think of, but for humans, after that discussion on her blog, I wonder if we can love unconditionally….seeing as this topic is deal breakers.
We can love wholeheartedly and immensely, but there are still deal breakers.