When She Slaps Him
August 23, 2007 by gayla
Filed under Relationships
We’ve been having a discussion with our teenagers lately that involves girls at school who seem to be just a bit too slap happy.
It’s my personal opinion that IF a girl slaps a guy – he should tell her one time and ONLY one time that IF she is going to resort to physical abuse, she better be able to take the same in return. If she slaps or hits him again, he has every right to knock her clean on her ass.
In all my years of being married or dating, I always held the same belief — that if I were going to be ‘man’ enough to fight like a ‘man’ then I’d better be ‘man’ enough to take what I had coming.
Now, granted, I don’t believe a man who has far more physical strength then a woman should use every ounce of his power to retaliate, but I certainly think he has every right to play a game of tit-for-tat.
There are many people who would consider my approach misguided, but don’t you think it’s time we change societies way of thinking from “boys should never hit girls” to “no one should ever hit anyone, period!”?
What do you think? Do boys have a right to give as good as they get?
Tags: relationships, arguments, hitting, abuse
Sorry, I don’t agree with your methodology (of hitting back) although I do agree that no one should hit.
Gender doesn’t enter into it to me at all. I don’t think you solve anything by hitting back. And, on a legal note, it’s an assault. (NOTE: I’m not talking about legitimate self-defense here, that’s a different issue.)
If we return violence in kind, we don’t diminish the level of violence in society, we only continue and escalate it.
Turning and walking away, learning to rise above poor behavior, taking the higher ground — call it whatever you want. We need to learn to choose our behavior, rather than reacting to another’s inappropriate behavior.
I guess spending my childhood ‘walking away’ from bullies who hit and then being in one abusive marriage has taught me that sometimes being the ‘bigger person and walking away’ will get you hurt worse.
In a perfect world that approach would work. But kids are learning early on that it’s ok for girls to hit boys and not for boys to hit girls. They’re learning that in school and carrying it into their adulthood.
If anyone (male or female) hits my kids, they take the proper approach at trying to resolve the issue. If that fails and the abuse doesn’t stop, I will stand behind my kids wiping the floor with the bully.
It’s sad we live in a world that we’d even have to consider that, but it’s the reality nonetheless.
I’m a big believer in grabbing the person’s wrist, looking them straight in the eye, and saying, “Do not do that again. Am I clear?” In a case of an actual attack, I suspect that wouldn’t be particularly helpful. But if someone is joking around in a way that’s inappropriate, it’s worked for me every time, with both little children and people who should know better.
Hitting back usually only works the once, and only if you’re really good at it–like if the little brother gets tired of being picked on and clocks the big brother and then he stops. :]
Kristen
lol
I agree, people who think it’s ok to hit should expect the same in return.
I think now days boys in general are extremely rude and ill mannered. As I do not condone slapping, but if its needed to protect , so be it. In general women will believe a low lying dog of a man before she will another woman especially if it is her son… known from experience. Not every girl or woman is a b*&#h… teach your young women well and stop ignoring them and name calling.. Abuse is high against females, teach them how to handle a situation wisely
Violence is a part of life, and will always be part of society, it is naive to think that you can always walk away. I think boys shouldn’t necessarily be taught not to hit girls – but everyone should be taught not to retaliate excessively.