Where’s My Invite?
May 31, 2009 by Aly Walansky
Filed under Relationships
It goes without saying that weddings – and who we invite to them – are a personal thing, and no one really has the right to tell us what to do.
That said, when we are NOT invited to a wedding we really feel like we should have been invited to…what is our recourse?
Without going into a long and winding tale, an old friend of mine is getting married next month – a friend who as soon as he got into this current relationship, basically began to ONLY spend time with his girlfriend, and disappeared off the radar. So, to that end, we’ve hardly spoken in a year…but before that, would talk all the time, and never had a falling out or any complications of any sort.
All our mutual friends are invited to the wedding. Every last one. And so, my not being invited feels almost like an exclusion, more than simply a matter of numbers.
The wedding will be really small, it’s to be a brunch held in the garden of a nearby restaurant, and so, numbers are limited, to be sure. The mutual friends are closer – my best friend is also friends with the bride, and the other friends have known him longer and better.
I may not have a leg to stand on, and in fact, I realize I have no right to complain – but I still feel just sad! Like it’s high school again, and I was the only one not invited to the cool afterprom party.
Alas.
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It doesn’t matter if you’ve got a leg to stand on or not – sometimes a girl just needs to vent a little.
I had the same type of incident happen to me recently! One of my college friends just got married this past weekend, and I was not invited. We weren’t really close, so I wasn’t totally surprised. However, after the fact, I found out that almost our whole group of friends had been invited, including someone I never thought would be invited. I know I shouldn’t be too upset, especially since it means I didn’t have to buy a gift [and I had a great date that night
], but it’s still hurtful.