Comments on: Who’s Got Problems? http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Thu, 10 Dec 2009 12:51:13 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-552048 Kristina Chew, PhD Mon, 18 Feb 2008 14:21:19 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/whos-got-problems/#comment-552048 @Alison, Hi----here's a link about <a href="http://www.autismvox.com/autism-training-for-preschool-teachers/">autism training for preschool teachers</a>. This is the <a href="http://myadlcenter.org/">ADL Center</a> in Pennsylvania, which is mentioned in <a href="http://www.phillyburbs.com/pb-dyn/news/111-02092008-1485175.html">this article about training preschool teachers</a>. Best wishes! @Alison,

Hi—-here’s a link about autism training for preschool teachers.

This is the ADL Center in Pennsylvania, which is mentioned in this article about training preschool teachers. Best wishes!

]]> By: Alison http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-549059 Alison Mon, 18 Feb 2008 09:20:35 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/whos-got-problems/#comment-549059 How do we teach preschoolers to accept differently abled children? How to treat them? So preschoolers treat them differently or is it after they go to school How do we teach preschoolers to accept differently abled children? How to treat them? So preschoolers treat them differently or is it after they go to school

]]> By: MomtoJBG http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-545009 MomtoJBG Sat, 13 Oct 2007 03:13:37 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/whos-got-problems/#comment-545009 I was in the grocery store today, and one of the twins suddenly started shrieking in the most blood-curdling way. People came from other sections of the store to see what was going on. I said, "They are autistic" (my second twin was covering his ears and making sad noises, too). It was interesting to see that some people kind of turned away and wouldn't look right at us. How could you not feel sympathetic? I thought it was a strange reaction. Later, when both twins were happy and smiling, ladies came up and cooed at them. I try to tough it out when people are staring, because I think they should get over it and accept us as we are. Which today was really, really loud. I was in the grocery store today, and one of the twins suddenly started shrieking in the most blood-curdling way. People came from other sections of the store to see what was going on.

I said, “They are autistic” (my second twin was covering his ears and making sad noises, too). It was interesting to see that some people kind of turned away and wouldn’t look right at us. How could you not feel sympathetic? I thought it was a strange reaction.

Later, when both twins were happy and smiling, ladies came up and cooed at them.

I try to tough it out when people are staring, because I think they should get over it and accept us as we are. Which today was really, really loud.

]]> By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-544872 Kristina Chew, PhD Fri, 12 Oct 2007 21:07:22 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/whos-got-problems/#comment-544872 At other times I might have stuck my nose in---the girls in question were not exactly speaking in soft voices. I am curious about the Language Arts curriculum at my town's middle school; in our old town, a lot was made of the district having a "character" curriculum against bullying (I'm not sure how effective it was). As a baby, lots of people at the supermarket always stopped to look at him.... At other times I might have stuck my nose in—the girls in question were not exactly speaking in soft voices. I am curious about the Language Arts curriculum at my town’s middle school; in our old town, a lot was made of the district having a “character” curriculum against bullying (I’m not sure how effective it was).

As a baby, lots of people at the supermarket always stopped to look at him….

]]> By: Karen http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-544847 Karen Fri, 12 Oct 2007 20:03:16 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/whos-got-problems/#comment-544847 People are often drawn to my Petey. Have been ever since he was a baby. In my not so humble opinion, he has a magnetic personality. Sure, he's got his share of challenges, but he's a really interesting guy and people generally like him, especially once they get to know him. I would never hide him away -- like Leanne, I very much feel that we have a place in our community and by and large, our community embraces us. Also, maybe it's just the junior high teacher in me, but I have stuck my nose in the types of conversations you overheard at the pool to "educate" people before. It's just part of who I am. karen in ca People are often drawn to my Petey. Have been ever since he was a baby. In my not so humble opinion, he has a magnetic personality. Sure, he’s got his share of challenges, but he’s a really interesting guy and people generally like him, especially once they get to know him. I would never hide him away — like Leanne, I very much feel that we have a place in our community and by and large, our community embraces us.

Also, maybe it’s just the junior high teacher in me, but I have stuck my nose in the types of conversations you overheard at the pool to “educate” people before. It’s just part of who I am.

karen in ca

]]> By: Caroline L. http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-544793 Caroline L. Fri, 12 Oct 2007 17:27:22 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/whos-got-problems/#comment-544793 Charlie is very good looking, and cool. I bet that is why kids look at him. He is just a cool, interesting kid, and people are always drawn to charisma. Charlie is very good looking, and cool.

I bet that is why kids look at him.

He is just a cool, interesting kid, and people are always drawn to charisma.

]]> By: athina http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-544770 athina Fri, 12 Oct 2007 16:52:16 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/whos-got-problems/#comment-544770 It hasn't been so long since people started noticing my son's "difference". He is 4 now and until recently nobody suspected what was going on, or at least nobody ever mentioned it to us. So, it's really disturbing sometimes when poeple stare, especially as I'm not used to it. It makes me realize what we'll face in the future and how hard it's goning to be for him and for us, but I have no intention of hiding him from the world. If somebody doesn't like seeing him or if people talk, that's OK. Maybe I would have done the same if I were in their position but we'll never know. The thing is that each one of us knows, understands and appreciates his/her own children, but people who don't deal with similar situations don't. Recently, the mother of a little girl in my son's class asked that her daughter will be placed in another class because she "doesn't have anything in common with the other children there". Note that the girl is not autistic but she is physically and mentally disabled because of a tumor she had in her head when she was born. I realize that she indeed has nothing in common with my child, but how awful does it sound to look down at another "different" child when you have a disabled child yourself. How on earth do you expect other people to be sensitive towards your child, when you lack basic sensitivity yourself! Her exact words were "some children can actually achieve many goals if they are helped and my child is one of them". Should I guess that mine isn't? It hasn’t been so long since people started noticing my son’s “difference”. He is 4 now and until recently nobody suspected what was going on, or at least nobody ever mentioned it to us. So, it’s really disturbing sometimes when poeple stare, especially as I’m not used to it. It makes me realize what we’ll face in the future and how hard it’s goning to be for him and for us, but I have no intention of hiding him from the world. If somebody doesn’t like seeing him or if people talk, that’s OK. Maybe I would have done the same if I were in their position but we’ll never know. The thing is that each one of us knows, understands and appreciates his/her own children, but people who don’t deal with similar situations don’t. Recently, the mother of a little girl in my son’s class asked that her daughter will be placed in another class because she “doesn’t have anything in common with the other children there”. Note that the girl is not autistic but she is physically and mentally disabled because of a tumor she had in her head when she was born. I realize that she indeed has nothing in common with my child, but how awful does it sound to look down at another “different” child when you have a disabled child yourself. How on earth do you expect other people to be sensitive towards your child, when you lack basic sensitivity yourself! Her exact words were “some children can actually achieve many goals if they are helped and my child is one of them”. Should I guess that mine isn’t?

]]> By: mcewen http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-544743 mcewen Fri, 12 Oct 2007 15:00:36 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/whos-got-problems/#comment-544743 Nothing good ever comes from ear wigging. Like you say, the older they get...... I'm not sure if we're just so used to them that we don't notice, or whether it really is as obvious as people seem to pick up on it. Like you say, when they're just sitting or standing.....how can people tell? But they can. Best wishes Nothing good ever comes from ear wigging. Like you say, the older they get……

I’m not sure if we’re just so used to them that we don’t notice, or whether it really is as obvious as people seem to pick up on it. Like you say, when they’re just sitting or standing…..how can people tell? But they can.

Best wishes

]]> By: Julie http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-544701 Julie Fri, 12 Oct 2007 13:05:10 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/whos-got-problems/#comment-544701 I've also noticed people (children and adults) staring at my daughter even when she isn't doing anything typical of her diagnosis. I have a strong immunity to other people's opinions, and public opinion is not the reason we rarely take her out anymore. Actually, I think it is natural for people to be curious. I don't assume people are being judmental just because they stare. People have made judgmental comments about my daughter's behavior when she was younger. But now that it is more obvious that she has a disability, people have tended to offer help when we've been in difficult situations. When she was small we went out in the community every single day. I was determined that my child was going to have a place in her own community. If she had behavior issues I could just scoop her up and remove her from the situation. Now that she is fifteen, she is much bigger and stronger than I am. I can no longer stop her from breaking away from me and running into a dangerous situation. I can't contain her if she becomes physically agressive. I can't keep her safe. It is not a question of acceptance. It is a question of safety. Sometimes love just ain't enough. I’ve also noticed people (children and adults) staring at my daughter even when she isn’t doing anything typical of her diagnosis. I have a strong immunity to other people’s opinions, and public opinion is not the reason we rarely take her out anymore. Actually, I think it is natural for people to be curious. I don’t assume people are being judmental just because they stare. People have made judgmental comments about my daughter’s behavior when she was younger. But now that it is more obvious that she has a disability, people have tended to offer help when we’ve been in difficult situations.

When she was small we went out in the community every single day. I was determined that my child was going to have a place in her own community. If she had behavior issues I could just scoop her up and remove her from the situation. Now that she is fifteen, she is much bigger and stronger than I am. I can no longer stop her from breaking away from me and running into a dangerous situation. I can’t contain her if she becomes physically agressive. I can’t keep her safe. It is not a question of acceptance. It is a question of safety. Sometimes love just ain’t enough.

]]> By: Leanne http://www.blisstree.com/articles/whos-got-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-544671 Leanne Fri, 12 Oct 2007 11:38:49 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/whos-got-problems/#comment-544671 Patrick is often the only one in any particular group of children with 'differences'. And he's only 5. I have noticed that parents seem to hide more as their special needs children get older. I hate that for them(the parents and the children). How they must feel. I often wonder what I can do to make them feel more comfortable being out in the world. I know, and I'm sure I've said it before, that Patrick and I are much happier now that we've realized we deserve a place in our community. It's freeing. Patrick is often the only one in any particular group of children with ‘differences’. And he’s only 5. I have noticed that parents seem to hide more as their special needs children get older. I hate that for them(the parents and the children). How they must feel. I often wonder what I can do to make them feel more comfortable being out in the world.

I know, and I’m sure I’ve said it before, that Patrick and I are much happier now that we’ve realized we deserve a place in our community. It’s freeing.

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