Why Girls Like Bad Boys

There is a common thread amongst most women.  We like bad boys.  I’ve fallen for them, my friends have fallen for them and my friends friends have too.  They’re magnetic.  Most people would suggest that it’s because we instinctively want to change them.  But I don’t think so.  I want them to stay just as wild, dangerous and bad as possible.

Is it because he’s unpredictable?  Or aloof?  Most bad boys act like they don’t care about anything.  Don’t fool yourself, that means they probably don’t care about you either.

I believe most girls mistake aloofness as being bad.  But, really, he probably just doesn’t care about you.  They say that men like the chase, but make no mistake, girls do too!  We are organically drawn to what we think we can’t have.

Have you ever gone out with a guy who was totally NOT in your league?  You went out with him because you were bored or maybe even pitied him?  You expected him to be all over you, hanging off your every word, getting wrapped up in your spell, only to realize that this is not the case.  He’s haughty and disinterested and not desperate for your attention.  What happens next?

Well, if you’re anything like me, your interest has piqued.  You’re curious and intrigued and all of a sudden you’re using your best moves on him, vying for his attention.  The power balance magically shifted.

I believe that is the appeal of the bad boy.  Us ladies are playful little creatures, who are deep and intelligent and intrigued by what we can’t understand.  Sex is our tool and when we become discombobulated if we feel that we are not in control of it.

Bad boys always get me thinking about a psychology class that I took in university.  The lesson was on attraction and arousal.

How does the body react, physically, when it becomes sexually aroused?

It does several things, including but not limited to:  the pupils dilate, blood pressure rises, the heart rate accelerates, perspiration increases, blood flow quickens (and becomes concentrated in certain, ahem, regions).

But all of this happens when you are scared as well.  Not, “I’m gonna kill you!” type fear, but roller-coaster fear.  Adrenaline is flowing and energy is rising, you’re excited and most of all you’re having fun.  Just like you feel when you’re with a bad boy.

Suppose your date picks you up in a Hyundai and you go see a romantic comedy.  Are you excited?  Hot?  Sweaty?  Not likely.  Now imagine he picks you up on a motorcycle.  You’re zooming through traffic, the wind blowing through your hair, you’re clutching on to him for dear life.  Then you go see a scary movie.  Your heart is racing, you’re jumpy, sweaty, your adrenaline is pumping and once again, you’re clinging on to him to save you.  And now he feels like he can protect you.  And men love that crap.

Girl, you have become putty in his bad boy hands.  The intrigue of the aloof, the adrenaline of the bad-ass; all tricks mastered by men to melt the hearts of us ladies.  But, now you know better.  Don’t fall for his tricks.  This knowledge is precious and now you must use it to your advantage.  Reclaim your edge.  Girl Power!