What Would You Do: Stinginess Ends in Foolishness
March 29, 2007 by Sasha Manuel
Filed under Relationships
“how would anybody of you will react if you learned that your husband shared a hotel room with a single girl dahil lang nagtitipid sila (translate: because they’re just trying to save money)? o, by the way, i just discovered it, I didn’t know about it until recently! accidentally saw the hotel confirmation. This happened Sept2006.” ~ Anonymous Reader @ Wifespeaks.Com
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Additional notes to make the situation a little clearer:
- The husband and the single woman were colleagues.
- Both were assigned to take a business trip to the US.
- Both are from the Philippines where the dollar exchange rate is quite high so it is expensive to go abroad.
- Husband is a new father.
- The single woman is aware of that the guy’s married with a new baby.
I already left a comment on the thread:
“I can’t help but be alarmed by what anonymous said. I mean I know how stingy people can get but godammit there are limits! Husbands should set limits and single women should practice propriety! That husband should be castrated and that single woman be stoned to death. But, of course, that’s me being conservative and vindictive. I can’t fathom that any reason would be excusable, let alone, be logical!I’m still single and these kind of things make it harder for me to take the plunge. Gawd.”
It was an emotional outburst on my part, actually. But if you’d notice the last line, that’s what moves me to post this concern here and get the opinion of the Dating Dames readers. I’m not only concern about how this kind of situation can happen when single people decide to go into marriage but also that it somehow made me think that it can happen with unmarried couples who’ve been together a long time.
What would you do if you find yourself caught in a similar situation? Honestly, I think I may react harshly but I haven’t really thought about it thoroughly. Perhaps I feel that there’s a rational way on how to deal with a situation of this sort. Care to share your thoughts on the matter?
Eep! I was in a similar situation two years ago when I went to a conference. I ended up sharing not only a room but a bed with an ex..well, we never dated, but we definitely, um, hooked up. Anyway, of course nothing happened, but I was sure to tell my BF right away that he had nothing to worry about. The hotel was $200 a night and we were both students, so it made sense.
We’ve been fighting about flirty girl (FG) even before I found out about this.
Here is my story.
They were assigned to work in the US and during the holidays, husband decided to visit his aunt and sister. He invited his friends and only FG went with him. I know about this. This trip is a personal trip, it has nothing to do with their work. I never asked, my only concern then was that he’s ok knowing that it’s a long drive. I just assumed that they stopped somewhere to rest. It never occured to me and I never imagined that they will share a room! I trusted him. That’s the reason why I never asked him where they stopped.
I’ve talked to the husband (gozillion times) about this, his excuse was: he forgot! Yes, he assured me (and making me feel the one who’s doing something wrong) that there is nothing going on between the two of them. I’m not jealous (*o please!*), my point is, it’s about respect. Respect for me as his wife. Respect that he should have told me. Is it really difficult to understand?
I can’t really take his excuse. He’s not like that (or so i thought). Besides, we were texting the whole time he was there! How’s that for an excuse.
As for FG, I’ve also talked to her. I really hate her! It was all her fault in the first place. Who in their right mind will suggest to a married man that they just share a room. Knowing how kuripot (thrifty) husband is, he liked the idea. O, by the way, she told me that she should now always remind herself that her friend is already married. DUH! And what do you mean by that! We’ve been married for 3 years!
To all those who know me, NO, I did not confront them in a nagging way. I was behaved and composed. But I wish I did! Keeping the hurt, pain and anger is killing me!