You’re Not Allowed To Crap On My Recovery!
October 9, 2008 by Mark
Filed under Diseases & Conditions
You’ve asked for it – now you have it!
Obviously there are those who are so incredibly wrapped up in themselves that they believe it is correct and proper to speak down about a new beginner’s meeting simply because it was announced that the format would follow some level of “crosstalk.”
“Oh, I would recommend to my people they not go there – crosstalk is such a no-no.” (Paraphrased)
Yeah, I know I ought not take it personally. I was told by someone I respect to alter the announcement. I will – for the sake of the newcomer. But for those of you who feel the necessity to character assassinate one of the most important tools I was presented with in my recovery – it isn’t happening! Got it?
I can deal with it. There are thousands upon thousands of folks who are yet to come to A.A. in the hope that a better life can be had by them. I know for certain that God will level the playing field if He deems it necessary. So, if you idiots get too far out of control, God will provide whatever reality check He thinks will wake you up.
But, right now and in the hereafter, you will not be allowed to crap on my recovery. Crosstalk helped save my life and the lives of many of my friends. Therefore, you’ll know who you are, if you were character assassinating our new meeting behind our backs you might have cost a newcomer their opportunity. I pray you can live with that. I couldn’t. Idiot.
Read the balance of this post which contained this quote from a G.S.O. staff member;
Looking at the subject from an AA’s point of view, a G.S.O. staff member says, “Comparing notes, many of us realized that nonjudgmental suggestions we had received in meetings in response to something we had shared, was very beneficial to our recovery. It is how we learn, and that’s what ’sharing experience, strength and hope’ is all about. Also, there is a thin line between guidelines and rules; and experience suggests that in A.A.’s ‘benign anarchy,’ rules, rigidity and attempts to control don’t work very well.” Whether an individual A.A. group chooses to include the crosstalk ‘guidelines’ in its meeting format is entirely up to its group conscience to determine, of course. But please do not say that such guidelines came from the General Service Office.“
Or came out of your sick and diseased mind regardless how many years appear after your name.
Cross talk is damaging and if you would lift your head out of your *** long enough to see that, you just might learn something. You say cross talk saved your life. “Life saving” should be done at the end of the meeting and thereby avoiding the fall out of unsolicited advise giving and a know-it-all attitudes. A person can simply approach someone after the meeting has wrapped, one-on-one and share directly with that person. For the sake of your own recovery Mark, Get With The Program.
Inventory taking and character assassination all wrapped up in one small comment. I’m impressed…
Sounds more like I hit your ego button square on the nose Lulu. No control? Sorry – won’t work here.
Where the he** does it say that life saving should be done at the end of a meeting? That makes absolutely NO sense!
Fear of fallout and unsolicited advice – why is it that so many run in such unfounded fear? Which causes the anger I see and feel in your comment. The God I understand is all I need to “save” me from your “fallout.” I think you’re giving the disease an edge. How’s that make you feel?