Comments on: Zoe and Wash – Firefly http://www.blisstree.com/articles/zoe-and-wash-firefly-232/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Thu, 03 Dec 2009 07:59:23 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Chinook http://www.blisstree.com/articles/zoe-and-wash-firefly-232/comment-page-1/#comment-99670 Chinook Thu, 31 Jul 2008 20:13:58 +0000 http://www.marriageactually.com/2008/03/11/zoe-and-wash-firefly/#comment-99670 First off I must state my love for both Firefly and the characters Zoe and Wash. I adore them; they're perhaps my favorite fictional couple of all time. Second, to your question - I think yes, it is possible to have close relationships with persons of the opposite gender while married/in a long-term relationship. I have close relationships with persons of either gender and I've been in my current relationship for over two years - the same applies to my boyfriend, and there's been no jealousy between us regarding the opposite gender. In fact, the only jealously that has cropped up at all was on my side, over him and another fellow - but ours in a unique situation I suppose (other than me, he has only been with guys and other than him I have only dated girls). As for Zoe, Mal and Wash specifically I can understand where Wash is coming from but I think overall, especially after the events of that episode, Zoe's relationship with both men is both healthy and touching. I like the fact that she and Mal can have a such a close connection that is in no way sexual, based purely on trust and mutual respect. Gender shouldn't be a determining factor in who your friends are. First off I must state my love for both Firefly and the characters Zoe and Wash. I adore them; they’re perhaps my favorite fictional couple of all time.

Second, to your question – I think yes, it is possible to have close relationships with persons of the opposite gender while married/in a long-term relationship. I have close relationships with persons of either gender and I’ve been in my current relationship for over two years – the same applies to my boyfriend, and there’s been no jealousy between us regarding the opposite gender. In fact, the only jealously that has cropped up at all was on my side, over him and another fellow – but ours in a unique situation I suppose (other than me, he has only been with guys and other than him I have only dated girls).

As for Zoe, Mal and Wash specifically I can understand where Wash is coming from but I think overall, especially after the events of that episode, Zoe’s relationship with both men is both healthy and touching. I like the fact that she and Mal can have a such a close connection that is in no way sexual, based purely on trust and mutual respect. Gender shouldn’t be a determining factor in who your friends are.

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]]> By: JHS http://www.blisstree.com/articles/zoe-and-wash-firefly-232/comment-page-1/#comment-99618 JHS Mon, 17 Mar 2008 04:23:48 +0000 http://www.marriageactually.com/2008/03/11/zoe-and-wash-firefly/#comment-99618 Thanks for participating in this week's Carnival of Family Life: St. Patrick's Day Edition at <a href="http://www.jhsiess.com" rel="nofollow">Colloquium</a>! The Carnival will be live at midnight (Pacific time) on March 17, 2008, so drop by and check out all of the wonderful submissions included this week! Happy St. Patrick's Day to you! Thanks for participating in this week’s Carnival of Family Life: St. Patrick’s Day Edition at Colloquium! The Carnival will be live at midnight (Pacific time) on March 17, 2008, so drop by and check out all of the wonderful submissions included this week! Happy St. Patrick’s Day to you!

]]> By: Bald Man http://www.blisstree.com/articles/zoe-and-wash-firefly-232/comment-page-1/#comment-99711 Bald Man Wed, 12 Mar 2008 04:59:12 +0000 http://www.marriageactually.com/2008/03/11/zoe-and-wash-firefly/#comment-99711 Heather, Having exposed ourselves to Josh's genius, we may have to get Buffy and Angel from the library. Season 6 of 24 is taking. way. too. long. Krista, Kerri was a bit like you, too; a bunch of good guy friends (most of them mutual to us both) before we got married. The change has been hard for her to adjust to at times. And I think you've got the most important part down: communication. The more open you and your spouse are the better. The truth isn't always easy, but it's always the better choice. Ann, We've got Serenity on order from the library, but your TV is much nicer than ours. :) You'll have to talk to my social coordinator. Heather,
Having exposed ourselves to Josh’s genius, we may have to get Buffy and Angel from the library. Season 6 of 24 is taking. way. too. long.

Krista,
Kerri was a bit like you, too; a bunch of good guy friends (most of them mutual to us both) before we got married. The change has been hard for her to adjust to at times. And I think you’ve got the most important part down: communication. The more open you and your spouse are the better. The truth isn’t always easy, but it’s always the better choice.

Ann,
We’ve got Serenity on order from the library, but your TV is much nicer than ours. :) You’ll have to talk to my social coordinator.

]]> By: Ann Williams http://www.blisstree.com/articles/zoe-and-wash-firefly-232/comment-page-1/#comment-99659 Ann Williams Tue, 11 Mar 2008 18:22:34 +0000 http://www.marriageactually.com/2008/03/11/zoe-and-wash-firefly/#comment-99659 I agree that Joss whedon is a genius. Angel and buffy great shows. I am not the biggest scifi lover but you know my hubby is. Seriously now you guys need to come over and watch Serinity. Glad you guys liked Firefly. Can you guess who my favorite character is? I agree that Joss whedon is a genius. Angel and buffy great shows. I am not the biggest scifi lover but you know my hubby is. Seriously now you guys need to come over and watch Serinity.
Glad you guys liked Firefly. Can you guess who my favorite character is?

]]> By: Krista http://www.blisstree.com/articles/zoe-and-wash-firefly-232/comment-page-1/#comment-99658 Krista Tue, 11 Mar 2008 12:49:04 +0000 http://www.marriageactually.com/2008/03/11/zoe-and-wash-firefly/#comment-99658 I didn't really make woman friends before I was married, and my closest friends were man friends. I still maintain those friendships, but I'm obsessive about telling my husband about any and every detail of my interactions with them. "Oh, Bob called, we talked about this and that and so-n-so, his granddad died, he went to the funeral, his brother in college rode along, he's really struggling with ___ still, he's studying ___ in Bible Study, etc." I'm still a newlywed (two years, baby!), but I know that marriages go through hard times when other guys seem better than the Husband, just because the grass is greener in pastures you don't have to live with, right? So I'm purposeful in my man-friendships now when things are awesome and my marriage is superfun; in case things get hard and the temptation ramps up, I'll already have the habits of (1) tell Husband everything because it's the hidden things that become big temptations and (2) prioritize Husband over manfriends. He gets to be Numero Uno now and if that changes the manfriendships then it changes the friendships. I didn’t really make woman friends before I was married, and my closest friends were man friends. I still maintain those friendships, but I’m obsessive about telling my husband about any and every detail of my interactions with them. “Oh, Bob called, we talked about this and that and so-n-so, his granddad died, he went to the funeral, his brother in college rode along, he’s really struggling with ___ still, he’s studying ___ in Bible Study, etc.”

I’m still a newlywed (two years, baby!), but I know that marriages go through hard times when other guys seem better than the Husband, just because the grass is greener in pastures you don’t have to live with, right? So I’m purposeful in my man-friendships now when things are awesome and my marriage is superfun; in case things get hard and the temptation ramps up, I’ll already have the habits of (1) tell Husband everything because it’s the hidden things that become big temptations and (2) prioritize Husband over manfriends. He gets to be Numero Uno now and if that changes the manfriendships then it changes the friendships.

]]> By: Heather http://www.blisstree.com/articles/zoe-and-wash-firefly-232/comment-page-1/#comment-99657 Heather Tue, 11 Mar 2008 12:38:34 +0000 http://www.marriageactually.com/2008/03/11/zoe-and-wash-firefly/#comment-99657 My husband and I don't have any close friends of the opposite sex, unless you count the other half of our couples friends. But in Capt. Reynolds and Zoe's situation is unique - they were part of the Brown Coats :-) ! In that episode, however, I think that Reynolds was overstepping a bit and Wash had every reason to make that comment. Joss Whedon (the creator) is a genius. Might I suggest for your viewing pleasure Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Angel (if you haven't already done so). I don't like that kind of tv either (or at least I thought I didn't), but it's great end of the day viewing! My husband and I don’t have any close friends of the opposite sex, unless you count the other half of our couples friends. But in Capt. Reynolds and Zoe’s situation is unique – they were part of the Brown Coats :-) ! In that episode, however, I think that Reynolds was overstepping a bit and Wash had every reason to make that comment.

Joss Whedon (the creator) is a genius. Might I suggest for your viewing pleasure Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Angel (if you haven’t already done so). I don’t like that kind of tv either (or at least I thought I didn’t), but it’s great end of the day viewing!

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