Babylune’s Sex Talk: Sex Excuse #1

Last week, I attempted to do a Top 10 Excuses for Parents that Aren’t having Sex and I explained that I planned on hitting each excuse. So here goes, please feel free to step in and chat about the topic or give your own experiences or remedies.

#1 is "There’s just no time.

Yes, I hear this one all the time and it doesn’t matter if both of you work or just one or neither of you work. There really seems to be no time for anything these days. No time to shop, read, pay bills, drive, go to the movies, go to school, etc.

So where did all the time go?

Time is one of those things we seem to take for granted, it’s always there and if we run out there is always tomorrow. But the old saying is tomorrow never comes. When it comes to time, it is something you have to make.

- I get home and she’s always busy. Cooking, laundry, homework with the kids. She doesn’t have time for me.

-  We both work, by the time we get home we have other things that have to get done.

-  I spend most of the day with the kids, by the time he comes home I want to get started on the next day.

As you can see by the stories everyone has their own circumstance, some that work want to just relax and get away from everyone. Others that are home all day want to get out or ahead. Being a parent or a working parent can be trying but the thing is as a married or just a couple you need to make sure it is going to work. Sex is a great thing, or at least it is suppose to be with the right person.

Here’s some things you can try:

-  A date night- believe it or not this can really put the spark back in a relationship no matter how many years you’ve been with the person. A lot of times once a couple has a child they stop doing all those "fun" things like movies, going out, dinner, etc that they did before having one. This of course can become a bore. He’s miserable, she’s miserable.  Get out and do something.

-  schedule a date and time (this does not always work)

-  start the foreplay early on (hold hands, neck, snuggle, or go all out)

-  Come home early if you can, many times an overworked spouse is a big culprit. Drop in during lunch. Have a lunch date.

-  Make the time- do your things ahead of time so when the kids are home it is only homework. Make a meal in the crock pot or order in. Once kids are in bed, it’s time to join your equal in the bedroom.

See, making time isn’t that hard. Yes, you might have to plan it but once it is all said and done and you’ve actually had sex you’ll see it was worth it. So, no time for sex, can now be chalked off as just a myth. (cause it can be done)

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