Comments on: Coming to Terms with Family Size and Fertility http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/ Adventures in post-partum recovery. Fri, 04 Dec 2009 18:55:43 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Amanda Regan (madamspud169) http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2839 Amanda Regan (madamspud169) Fri, 19 Oct 2007 15:51:13 +0000 http://www.babylune.com/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/#comment-2839 I would love to have another child, my son is an only & the guilt I feel because of this just eats me up inside. I'd love for him to have a sibling, a playmate & someone he could love & rely on once I'm gone but it isn't an option for me medically & Damn it I wish it was an option I would love to have another child, my son is an only & the guilt I feel because of this just eats me up inside. I’d love for him to have a sibling, a playmate & someone he could love & rely on once I’m gone but it isn’t an option for me medically & Damn it I wish it was an option

]]> By: Controversial Conversations: Your Fertile Years And Family Size http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2790 Controversial Conversations: Your Fertile Years And Family Size Fri, 19 Oct 2007 15:01:12 +0000 http://www.babylune.com/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/#comment-2790 [...] Do you ever think; “I’d better have one more baby before it’s too late?” [...] [...] Do you ever think; “I’d better have one more baby before it’s too late?” [...]

]]> By: navi http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2721 navi Fri, 12 Oct 2007 15:47:12 +0000 http://www.babylune.com/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/#comment-2721 btw, I haul my three in a cavalier (course the 9 yr old is tall and doesn't need a booster) btw, I haul my three in a cavalier (course the 9 yr old is tall and doesn’t need a booster)

]]> By: Jennifer W http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2803 Jennifer W Fri, 12 Oct 2007 02:51:33 +0000 http://www.babylune.com/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/#comment-2803 Wow, I feel like a freak now. LOL Seriously, one was more than enough for me and I got a tubal after my son was born. I know my limits, financial and otherwise. I had enough of a 'blended family' to know another, but different, half-sibling for my son would be too much for me. I seriously wonder what it would be like to be someone who wants a lot of kids, like my sister, and I don't get it. I wish I did but I'm just not a baby person. I'm so thankful for my son, but maybe adoption or step-parenting is a better solution for me. Wow, I feel like a freak now. LOL Seriously, one was more than enough for me and I got a tubal after my son was born. I know my limits, financial and otherwise. I had enough of a ‘blended family’ to know another, but different, half-sibling for my son would be too much for me.

I seriously wonder what it would be like to be someone who wants a lot of kids, like my sister, and I don’t get it. I wish I did but I’m just not a baby person. I’m so thankful for my son, but maybe adoption or step-parenting is a better solution for me.

]]> By: facing my fertility… http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2777 facing my fertility… Fri, 12 Oct 2007 00:52:17 +0000 http://www.babylune.com/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/#comment-2777 [...] here, Kate, is my answer to your post about Coming to terms with family size and fertility. family size, fertility, only child, single mom, single mommy, single motherShare This Related [...] [...] here, Kate, is my answer to your post about Coming to terms with family size and fertility. family size, fertility, only child, single mom, single mommy, single motherShare This Related [...]

]]> By: How Many Kids Is Enough and Breaking News about the Breaking News about the Baby’s Name — Be A Good Dad http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2613 How Many Kids Is Enough and Breaking News about the Breaking News about the Baby’s Name — Be A Good Dad Tue, 02 Oct 2007 02:32:17 +0000 http://www.babylune.com/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/#comment-2613 [...] Anyway, I was thinking about family size after reading the post on Babylune called Coming to Terms with Family Size and Fertility. [...] [...] Anyway, I was thinking about family size after reading the post on Babylune called Coming to Terms with Family Size and Fertility. [...]

]]> By: Stephanie http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2634 Stephanie Mon, 01 Oct 2007 22:11:32 +0000 http://www.babylune.com/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/#comment-2634 I'm 22 and have 1 sone and am pregnant with my second i've decided to get my tubes tied when this one is out but now i'm not so sure, i really don't need the stresses and hassle of having three kids however i grew up with two siblings and i would like my children to have a number of places to look for support, and once i'm gone i don't want there ot be any depressing christmases with only two people there. i know that i;m young and have much to learn and expiarience in this life however i just don' tknow what to do in this situation. i marrieda wonderful man that was my best friend all through high school and i trully believe that we are meant to be together forever but i'm afraid if down the line he wants another one that it may become a problem. or if god forbid something happens between us or to him i wonb't be able to satisfy the needs of the one that i chose after him. he's sucha good man and i'm so scared that one day he'll realize that i'm just not good for him. i mean he stays home with our son while i work and waits on me hand and foot now that i;m pregnant. he's always worried about me and how much i eat. some times i just lay at mnihgt and think about how much different my life has become since i've been with him. he came over after i hadn't seen him in 6 months, and never left. he come onver the last day of june, told me he loved me on the secoond day of july and proposed july 3rd. we were married on july 20th 2004 and have only been apart a total of two nights since day one. the only time that he did go home to get fresh clothes and take a shower. he called me 25 min after i dropped him off and begged me to come beack and get him because he missed mee. i don't hink i could have found anyone better to make me feel like i want to cry and laugh all at the same time. I’m 22 and have 1 sone and am pregnant with my second i’ve decided to get my tubes tied when this one is out but now i’m not so sure, i really don’t need the stresses and hassle of having three kids however i grew up with two siblings and i would like my children to have a number of places to look for support, and once i’m gone i don’t want there ot be any depressing christmases with only two people there. i know that i;m young and have much to learn and expiarience in this life however i just don’ tknow what to do in this situation. i marrieda wonderful man that was my best friend all through high school and i trully believe that we are meant to be together forever but i’m afraid if down the line he wants another one that it may become a problem. or if god forbid something happens between us or to him i wonb’t be able to satisfy the needs of the one that i chose after him. he’s sucha good man and i’m so scared that one day he’ll realize that i’m just not good for him. i mean he stays home with our son while i work and waits on me hand and foot now that i;m pregnant. he’s always worried about me and how much i eat. some times i just lay at mnihgt and think about how much different my life has become since i’ve been with him. he came over after i hadn’t seen him in 6 months, and never left. he come onver the last day of june, told me he loved me on the secoond day of july and proposed july 3rd. we were married on july 20th 2004 and have only been apart a total of two nights since day one. the only time that he did go home to get fresh clothes and take a shower. he called me 25 min after i dropped him off and begged me to come beack and get him because he missed mee. i don’t hink i could have found anyone better to make me feel like i want to cry and laugh all at the same time.

]]> By: Modified mummy http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2639 Modified mummy Mon, 01 Oct 2007 16:27:26 +0000 http://www.babylune.com/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/#comment-2639 Well, I'm not at a stage ion my life where my decision to have another or not is a 'last chance', as it were (no offence to those of that age!) but I seriously doubt I'll ever put myself through that trauma of labour again! We have two beautiful children, they're an absolute delight, but the last labour was agonising! I don't want to go through that again, and I don't want to put my partner through seeing me like that either. We plan to adopt our third child, it was a vague idea anyway, now after last time it's a certainty... Unless the only hospital near me decides to buck it's policy and actually get an anaethatist full time so epidurals can be an option! Then I'd maybe have another ;) Well, I’m not at a stage ion my life where my decision to have another or not is a ‘last chance’, as it were (no offence to those of that age!)

but I seriously doubt I’ll ever put myself through that trauma of labour again!

We have two beautiful children, they’re an absolute delight, but the last labour was agonising! I don’t want to go through that again, and I don’t want to put my partner through seeing me like that either.

We plan to adopt our third child, it was a vague idea anyway, now after last time it’s a certainty…

Unless the only hospital near me decides to buck it’s policy and actually get an anaethatist full time so epidurals can be an option! Then I’d maybe have another ;)

]]> By: Ebircs http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2635 Ebircs Mon, 01 Oct 2007 01:16:51 +0000 http://www.babylune.com/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/#comment-2635 I grew up in a family of four where I was the second-youngest. My eldest two brothers have incredible self-confidence and a belief that all will work out for them, while I and my youngest brother have never had that same inner strength. I'm convinced that this comes from the amount of attention we youngest received from our parents, which was much, much less than the first two. Moreover, my parents were so exhausted by the demands of four of us, that they relied on the older two to help raise us younger two, which meant that the younger two experienced a huge amount of bullying. I now have one adopted child and another on the way. I'm 43, and as much as I love my daughter and as-yet-undesignated-daughter-to-be, I'm tired most of the time. Two will be just fine, thanks. As to fertility, well, here's an analogy: imagine that most people get to go to Italy, but I got to go to Spain instead. Sometimes I wonder what Italy would have been like, but you'll never hear me saying, "I couldn't go to Italy so I had to go to Spain." Spain's been very cool and I wouldn't change a thing. I grew up in a family of four where I was the second-youngest. My eldest two brothers have incredible self-confidence and a belief that all will work out for them, while I and my youngest brother have never had that same inner strength. I’m convinced that this comes from the amount of attention we youngest received from our parents, which was much, much less than the first two.

Moreover, my parents were so exhausted by the demands of four of us, that they relied on the older two to help raise us younger two, which meant that the younger two experienced a huge amount of bullying.

I now have one adopted child and another on the way. I’m 43, and as much as I love my daughter and as-yet-undesignated-daughter-to-be, I’m tired most of the time.

Two will be just fine, thanks.

As to fertility, well, here’s an analogy: imagine that most people get to go to Italy, but I got to go to Spain instead. Sometimes I wonder what Italy would have been like, but you’ll never hear me saying, “I couldn’t go to Italy so I had to go to Spain.”

Spain’s been very cool and I wouldn’t change a thing.

]]> By: Hil http://www.blisstree.com/babylune/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2604 Hil Sun, 30 Sep 2007 13:52:25 +0000 http://www.babylune.com/coming-to-terms-with-family-size-and-fertility/#comment-2604 See, and now I have the confirmation I need to give my hubby some peace. lol Seriously though, in relation to the car, most sedans (and some subcompacts) can fit three carseats in the back. If you expand even to six children, current crossover and SUV models can meet your needs. I don't ever want to buy another minivan again. (Ours has been sitting in our driveway for the past month eating up our bank account. grrr.) I should really post on this topic. :) See, and now I have the confirmation I need to give my hubby some peace. lol

Seriously though, in relation to the car, most sedans (and some subcompacts) can fit three carseats in the back. If you expand even to six children, current crossover and SUV models can meet your needs. I don’t ever want to buy another minivan again. (Ours has been sitting in our driveway for the past month eating up our bank account. grrr.) I should really post on this topic. :)

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