Becoming Everyone’s Mother
September 18, 2006 by kate baggott
Filed under Infancy
Both my sister and a friend of mine are due to pop out their second children any day now. I suspect, at this point in their pregnancies, they are so full of baby and stomach acid that they can’t lie down properly. I remember too well the discomfort that caps itself off with the pain of childbirth followed immediately by adjusting to life with two children and having absolutely no time for myself. There was just work and more work. For about a week when the baby was 5 weeks-old, I had no idea who I was.
My saving grace came in the form of words from a friend. “It doesn’t get easier,” she said, “but you do get used to it.”
And while you get used to it, you do what you can for your poor body and remember that you and all of your parts are important and deserving of care. If you can get help, take it. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need and don’t be frightened of needing the support of those who love you.
Great advice! The hardest thing for me as a new mother was accepting help. I wanted to be perfect and in my mind that meant doing it all. It’s a hard piece of humble pie to eat when you’re forced to recognize that you’re human after all!
Hugs,
Holly
Holly’s Corner
Can I just say that the minute they turn four, suddenly they seem so grown up and the hard stuff is all behind you? From then on out, it is all about enjoying little conversations and finding out how their little minds work lol…
Holly, you are not alone. Becoming a mother unleashes the control freak in all of us.
SP. My 4 year-old is all about the bossiness. I am not sure if it’s easier or if it’s just a welcome change.