Comments on: It’s Called Permanent Birth Control For a Reason!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 20:31:36 +0000

I must disagree with the OP for a couple of reasons. A man does not “owe” his wife a vacectomy. It is his body.

I am dating a man whose wife made him get a vacetomy because she didn’t want to get pregnant again. She the divorced him 10 years later when he lost his job and couldn’t find another one in the same salary (sometimes she’ll tell him that if he was still making the same salary he would still be in the house). He didn’t want the divorce, she did. She now has a rich new boyfriend.

Thanks to this horrible woman, if this man and I do decide to get married we won’t be able to have a child together. He doesn’t want to go through more surgery and I am not sure if we could afford IVF (with sperm extraction) any way.

By: Let Me Just Annotate That

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By: kbaggott

kbaggott — Mon, 26 Jun 2006 16:06:01 +0000

I think if you have doubts about wanting more children, you don’t have permanent birth control.

That said, I find the “what if” scenario being presented to men rather dangerous. Tubals, the femail serilisation is so much more dangerous, but many men would still rather their wives be subjected to it than to sacrifice the “what if” and undergo a simple, non invasive procedure

By: Michele

Michele — Sun, 25 Jun 2006 13:35:59 +0000

I agree but for somewhat different reasons. If he’s getting the vasectomy because he doesn’t feel able to care for additional children, then I agree with you that the operation should be permanent.

If he’s considering a vasectomy because she doesn’t want more children, but he can envision circumstance where he’d want more children, then maybe they should consider alternatives.

Regarding the potential of his having children without her: (1) If he lives longer than her, would it be wrong for him to remarry and have additional children? (2) If they differ strongly on wanting more children, will their marriage last? I don’t like people planning for divorce… but regard this as a symptom that the marriage won’t last.