Here are a few questions for you:

-  Do you find yourself ever staring at a baby and sizing him/her up? You know comparing him to your own by size.

-  Ever find yourself comparing dates when your child took his first step, word, etc?

-  How about those birth stories? Who was the quickest? Longest? Strangest? etc

I’ve found myself guilty at all the above and plus some. But I also find that this is a great way to make friends as well. I mean imagine 8 moms sitting in one spot and just sitting there for half an hour. One is bound to make the first question: Got any kids? What ages? This is when the competition begins but this is what opens the doors to those friendships as well. So while I do it, I also believe I do it at a not so competitive level. What about you?

Comment below: How are some ways you’ve made friends? If through questions of this nature how did it turn out? What were the questions?

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Momologue vs Mamalogues
While I have never met either of these two bloggers I do know how it feels when someone takes over your domain name. I have had a few sites taken away by others that did something similar in the spelling. However, can this really put an end to having a domain name? Okay, the story goes (from my readings) Mamalogues bought the trademark back in 2004, which should be her name only, no one else should be able to get it. However, it seems that Momologue also began blogging the following year, but didn’t get her trademark. Now three years later the ladies have collided.

How? It seems one of them befriended the other on the popular social site, Twitter.com. This is when Mamalogues told Momologue that she was infringing on the name. She tried several times to get the situation fixed, however Momologue didn’t return emails or twitters. Finally as a last resort, Dana Loesch of Mamalogues, sent a cease and desist letter through her lawyer.

This seems to be when everything hit the fan, this is when Genevieve Hinson, author of Momologue, went to the press. The article claims that Dana is being a cyber-bully towards Genevieve, what do you think? Was Dana only protecting what she already bought and has become her own name? Or did Dana go out and purposely hurt Genevieve feelings when she was being ignored?

ABC wrote:

Hinson said she received two messages via the social networking site, Twitter.com that Loesch claimed to have sent her. Hinson said she added Mamalogues as a Twitter friend, which she said is what likely made Loesch aware of Hinson’s site. Hinson said Loesch likely wasn’t using the site Twitter.com correctly to receive messages back because of how the site is set up regarding site ‘followers’. Hinson said without clicking on the ‘follow’ button on her Twitter profile, the messages likely didn’t get through.

No emails were received from Loesch, Hinson claimed, just the cease-and-desist letter.

Which side are you on? Mamalogues has come forward to set things straight and I’m sorry but I can’t seem to find a post by Momologue about this, however I will leave you with the link to the story written by ABC. (scroll up) Oh and of course this part is only one-sided as they never did contact Dana.

To leave you with a last thought: what should the outcome be? Should Dana be called a bully when she’s protecting her own and should Genevieve lose her site she’s had for three years and considers her home? That’s a tough one, but that’s the blogging business.

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No mom should ever have to feel guilty about wanting just a little bit of time for herself but she does. Why? Probably because when our children come they are always our first priority so we feel guilty when we don’t want them with us. Truth is it isn’t that we don’t want them with us but we want to be us. You know that person hidden under the vomit, accident stains, unruly hair and no make up face. We want to chip off just a bit and see if it is really us that lays beneath it.

If you have a child and haven’t had the luxury of having a “time for yourself,” my suggestion to you is to do it. Tell the spouse you need to get out, even if it is only for an hour to go to the bookstore and do it. Don’t sit around waiting for it to happen, because before you know it time will pass. Sure you’ll be able to do it once they all start school but do you want to wait that long? The answer is no, yes, you’ll surely feel guilty but you’ll also get a renewed feeling. Trust me, you’ll make up for the time you’ve been away the moment you see your child.

 If you get a time for yourself, would you mind listing your tips here? 

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1. No time to exercise
2. I eat my kids’ leftovers
3. I snack all day as I never have the time to make anything for myself between cleaning house and running after the kids.
4. I can’t diet, I’m breastfeeding.
5. I don’t like all that healthy food, it’s bland.

These are only a few excuses I’ve found in the emails that I sent out. If these are one of your responses, as many are even mine, there is hope and you can start actually losing that weight if you try. For instance, Weightloss Moms wrote an article about how two women were given the challenge to lose 15 lbs in a certain amount of time or they’d be humiliated in front of everyone. Did it happen? No, they lost the weight. This got me thinking, exactly what does it take for us women to lose the weight?

Some of you said you noticed when someone said something to you, for myself the issue was shopping for a dress to a big event and I couldn’t fit into anything I’d ever worn. Both of these brought women to realize their weight had become an issue. Sometimes doctors told them it was a health issue and not just an appearance.

How do women lose the weight? Several wrote me they joined Weight Watchers, this is one I haven’t tried yet. Others decided they’d start small and begin walking and later jogging with their kids. Yes, even small ones can go with, you may need a walker or a backpack but it does work. My biggest issue had been the weather but the weather is getting nice now so it looks like I won’t be able to use that as an excuse any longer. Others, stop eating your kids food, if you haven’t made yourself something to eat stop everything you are doing and do it. Your children aren’t going to benefit if you pass out from not eating correctly.

Once you begin losing the weight or just eating healthier you will feel better about yourself. If you really want to lose the weight it is going to take some determination. Are you ready? Who wants to take this journey with me? Let me know below. (we will be doing more on this topic later in the week)

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Here’s what some moms are saying:

ALL moms deal with this, not just moms that give birth. Fertility issues are really hard on the body and can cause such hormonal changes that you gain weight like crazy. I gained about 15 pounds and then lost it after our adoption (due to stress) but have gained that 15 back. No matter what I do I can’t lose it.  – Pickel

When my 3rd was 2 weeks old, I was in a size 7 jeans (tight) and my dad asked when Iw as going to lose that fat.  – Marye Audet

Susie was already 2 when I finally woke up to my weight problem. I weighed 151 pounds at that point and lived in sweat pants and my husbands over-sized t-shirts. I’d become friends with a neighbor who was just a few years younger than me. She tactfully mentioned one day that she thought I was really pretty and wondered why I had let myself go. I looked in the mirror that night and broke into tears.  – Dawn

For myself, I’ll never forget my 6 year old asking me why I was still pregnant…only days after giving birth. While most would say, this is a normal thing it hit hard. Do you remember someone saying something about the way you looked? How did you feel?

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I’m looking for moms that have dealt with the whole weight/body issue after having a baby. If you are one of them, which I know there are many would you mind dropping a comment or emailing me here at eliza.ferree@b5media.com. I’d love to ask you a few questions for next week. That’s right we are talking about sex and the body, so many moms go through it lets start chatting about it.

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