OK, I have to rethink my commentary on the post partum father. In one post I was worried about uninvolvement, and in another I talked about how there could be more involvement. Both posts may have implied criticism of my own husband and the second took a teasing tone (although that was more for entertainment purposes).
If I want to enjoy a healthy old age, I had better reconsider my attitude. Idealizing Your Spouse is Good For You, says a recent Toronto Star headline. Research conducted by Vancouver-based clinical psychologist Norm O’Rourke “has shown people who idealize their partners later in …read more

A friend of mine recently responded to my post on the post partum father.
“I was interested in your thought that dad’s are less involved with the second than with the first. That is very different than how things happened in our family.”
My friend was so exhausted when her second child was born that she just couldn’t keep up. As a result her husband went into service in a way he just didn’t have to with the first child.
Whenever my friend’s first child cried at night she would leap up and nurse her, but with the second she was often just …read more