The Parental Sex Omnibus
May 30, 2007 by kate baggott
Filed under Mental Health
One question strikes fear in the hearts of men and women of childbearing age.
Is there sex after parenthood?
Yes, of course there is.
Just a lot less of it.
In fact, it’s worth looking into “sensual birth” just to get some additional closeness in before the baby arrives.
I used to hate talking about sex. Now, though, readers of this blog have taught me that talking helps. If you’re having problems, read the comments in this post. Chances are you’ll read about someone whose worse off than you are.
Here are links to all the other posts I’ve written about sex.
What’s normal? Well, there’s probably no such thing. Experts tell us to avoid intercourse for the first 6 to 8 weeks in order to protect the mother against infection and another pregnancy. There are also hormonal issues that could play into any couple’s sex life that could go without notice when there’s a new baby in the house.
What, perhaps, is most important to say this is:
Children come and they change the nature of marriage. There are all kinds of power plays, shifting loyalties and affections that can cause couples to hurt each other and avoid talking about the big relationship issue that is sex.
Things may never go back to the way they were. Instead, you must believe that things can get better by being completely new. It really does help.
I love my partner of 9 years. Our first child was born in feb 07. For some time now her libido has been non-existant. She wants sex with me, but just doesn’t feel like it. I have improved my fitness and physique to get the animal in her roaring. So after 7 months of bliss with baby, (ok the first 3 months nearly killed both of us). What can I learn and discover that makes a mother tick? She is my goddess.