How to Get a Distractible Baby to Nurse in Public? (Mom to Mom #4)

Kat writes:

Q: What do you do with a 5.5-month-old that just won’t nurse well out in public because he’s too distractible? Henry just sucks for a second and then pulls off, then sucks for a second, then pulls off, etc. Then when I give up because it’s too frustrating or he’s too distracted, he complains because he’s still hungry. I think he also doesn’t like the lack of comfy Boppy pillow while we’re out. In fact, in general he doesn’t eat well if the Boppy is not being used. (I guess my arms are too bony!) But in any case, when I need to be out for an extended period of time and he’s not eating well, I worry that he will become dehydrated.

A: One of the great advantages of breastfeeding is being able to venture out without bottles, formula and ice packs. I can see why you might be frustrated by your baby’s distractibility and difficulty nursing in public.

Right around five months of age, babies become fascinated with their changing surroundings. They may also be highly sensitive to the noise and commotion around them. During this phase, outings may take a bit more coordination.

Naturally the first thing to do is tank up before you go–that is, make time for a long nursing session before you leave the house. Also, schedule the length of your outing accordingly.

Should it become necessary to nurse before you return home, consider using a sling. A sling has the advantage of blocking out distractions as well as providing a discreet means of nursing in public. It will also help cradle the baby so he doesn’t feel those bony arms! There are several brands and types of slings available, and if he doesn’t like one kind you might ask friends if you could take their models for a test drive. Another option would be to cradle him in his favorite soft blanket. If you tuck the blanket under your arm and wrap it around Henry, it will also provide some coverage for your breast (I’ve never liked covering up mom and baby completely with a blanket over mom’s shoulder. Not only does it draw attention to the fact that you’re nursing, it can be too hot and make it difficult to latch on the baby properly. Of course, if both you and baby are comfortable that way, then by all means, continue doing what works for you!)

Choose your location wisely. Find a discreet booth in the corner of the mall food court. Some nicer department stores have a women’s lounge complete with a couch (and maybe even a pillow or two!) outside the women’s restroom. (Remember, should someone ever have the audacity to suggest that you nurse in the restroom itself, politely yet pointedly ask her if she generally eats in the restroom!)

If you need a car for your errands, the car can always serve as the last resort for a quiet and private place to nurse. You can even keep an extra of the baby’s beloved Boppy pillows in the car for just such an occasion.

Finally, keep in mind that this is just a phase. Soon your nursling will latch on easily, nurse discreetly and not be so distracted by his surroundings.

Moms, what have you done with your distractible baby? Do you have any tips for nursing in public?