Helping my baby feed herself some yogurt

Five More Tips for Helping Your Baby with Solid Food Feedings

11. Don’t starve the baby of breast milk in the hope of encouraging solid food intake. I hope that sentence speaks for itself, but in case not, let me explain what I mean. Don’t give in to the unhelpful suggestion or thought that you are feeding the baby too much breast milk and that is the reason the baby shows little interest in solids. People who think that are misguided on a few levels: (1) it’s nearly impossible to feed a baby too much breast milk (you cannot force a baby to nurse when the baby is not interested, and babies self-regulate at the breast whereas milk from a bottle flows freely and it is harder for a bottle-fed baby to control the amount consumed), (2) depriving the baby of milk does not encourage solids but does encourage a cranky, potentially malnourished baby, and (3) there is no rush to get the baby to eat much solid food because breast milk provides the bulk of nutrition through the first year (and in fact some babies thrive on breast milk alone — see the comments section for more discussion on that assertion).

A baby who is resisting solid foods simply might not be ready for any number of reasons. Maybe the gag reflex has not completely gone away. Perhaps your baby is teething or ill and needs some time off from or a delay in starting solids. It’s even possible that your baby knows what is best. I have heard anecdotes about babies who resisted solid food or certain foods in particular and those babies turned out to have one or more food allergies. If you suspect a food allergy, read “A” Is for Allergy Prevention and Reduction.

12. Offer a choice. As I’ve said before, I believe most food issues are about control. If you limit food choices and try to force your baby to eat a particular food, that can backfire to the point that your child severely limits the foods he or she will eat. Give your baby the control by offering a choice at any given meal. “Squash or applesauce?” “Pears or kiwi or both?” Even a six-month-old can indicate a preference for food through facial expressions, sounds, or grabbing for a particular food. The idea is not to prepare two separate meals or to waste food, but to show the baby what’s on offer and to provide the food the baby will actually eat!

Of course, the choice is not “veggies or fast food chicken nuggets.” All of the options you offer should be nutritious. This will become more and more important as the baby becomes older. At my house, a child can choose whether to eat any or all of the fruit, vegetable, grain, and/or meat offered at that particular meal. If the child chooses not to eat any of the items on offer (this has happened two or three times with my four-year-old), then she gets to wait until I finish my meal before I will prepare one other healthful option (usually something unexciting like whole grain cereal and milk). I look at my child’s nutrition over the course of a week and do not worry about any isolated meal.

13. Ease up if it is not going well. Hindsight will often reveal why a baby was refusing a particular food or solids in general. Let your baby rely on the nutrition from breast milk as you slow down the process. Your baby will sense if you become tense or anxious about food. Don’t let your anxiety become contagious! The goal is for your baby to enjoy solid food, not any particular amount of food or any one certain food. Success breeds success, and a baby who has a good experience at meal time will look forward to the next meal. A child who refuses vegetables at one meal just might eat them at the next, and in the end the child quite possibly will eat better if you do not engage in a battle of wills over a certain food. It all comes back to the issue of control.

14. Invite over a peer. If your older baby still does not show much interest in solids or does not eat many different types of food, it can be very helpful to invite over a little friend you know is a good eater! Go on a picnic or have a play date. Talk to the other parent in advance about serving a food the other child will readily eat. When your child sees the other child eating that food, your child might very well want some too!

15. Read up on the subject. If you missed parts one and two of this series, see 5 Tips for Helping Your Baby Enjoy Solid Food and More Tips for Your Baby and Solid Food. If your baby is just starting solid food, check out Starting Your Baby on Solid Foods: When, What and How. For more detailed reading, you might enjoy the following books:

Super Baby Food by Ruth Yaron
Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense by Ellyn Satter
My Child Won’t Eat!: How to Prevent and Solve the Problem by Carlos González

What are your thoughts? Do you agree or disagree with my tips? Have you read any of the books I mentioned? Do you have any other books you recommend?

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Strawberry yogurt face!

Five More Tips for Helping Your Baby Enjoy Solid Food

6. Set a good example with what you eat. One of the signs of readiness for solid food is that your baby shows interest in what you are eating. The baby’s urge to lunge for your food works in a positive way! At meal time, sit next to your baby or have your baby sit in your lap, and be prepared to share your food (modified as appropriate and safe for the baby). If you are having red beans and rice, squish some beans and let your baby grab them and work on self-feeding, or load a mashed bean onto a baby spoon and help your baby guide the spoon.

Of course, this interest in your food means that if you’re eating a chocolate chip cookie, your baby will want that cookie too. So save the treats for when your baby is napping or has gone to bed.

7. Consider the texture of the food. You are the expert on your baby! Pay close attention and experiment to see whether your child prefers sweet potatoes diluted with a little breast milk, mashed up plain, or cut into tiny bits. At the same time, consider whether your child likes to use a spoon or prefers to pick up the mash or cubes of food with his or her hands. Mix up the routine and have fun with it!

8. Let your baby be in the driver’s seat. Babies have a way of making their preferences and desires quite clear. Let your baby tell you whether meal time is over or it’s time for seconds. Don’t force the issue if your baby simply isn’t interested in solids one day. Teething, an upset tummy, a belly full of milk (not a bad thing!) — all those can suppress your baby’s interest in food at any given meal.

If your baby is clamoring for more food though, then it’s okay to let your baby take the lead, within reason. For example, an entire banana probably isn’t a good idea or you risk constipation. You also want to keep in mind that breast milk is still the baby’s primary source of nutrition and if your baby seems particularly hungry, it could be a growth spurt. Offer more nursing sessions throughout the day, and keep an eye on your milk supply so that the amount of solid foods you are offering does not interfere with your milk supply.

9. Remember that these first feedings are more for learning and less for nutrition. As I mentioned in tip #8, you do not need to worry about getting a certain amount of food into the baby at any given meal. While you want the food you offer to be nutritious, your baby’s nutrition continues to come from your milk. That’s one of the great things about breastfeeding in that for the first year or so, you have the security of knowing your baby is getting a well-balanced meal at your breast! (The nutritional benefits of breastfeeding also continue well beyond the first year. Toddler milk supplies protein, fat, vitamins and antibodies, some in even greater quantities during the second year and beyond!)

10. Eat a wide variety of foods while you are breastfeeding. Believe it or not, the foods you eat flavor the breast milk and help your baby learn to appreciate a wide variety of foods. There is no reason for you to limit yourself to a bland diet while you are breastfeeding. It’s perfectly fine — and beneficial — for you to enjoy spicy and flavorful foods!

If you missed tips 1-5, see 5 Tips to Help Your Baby Enjoy Solid Food.

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My 10-month-old with tomato sauce all over her face!

1. Tell your baby the name of each food you are offering. This simple step goes a long way to establishing a healthy relationship with food. Your baby deserves to know what each food is. You might not think a six-month-old baby could understand what you mean when you say “peas,” but say it often enough and the baby will start to associate that delicious green food with the word “peas” and might even get excited with anticipation when you say it! As silly as it might sound to your ears, it’s helpful to say at various points throughout the meal, “These are peas.” When your baby shows approval, “Oh, you like peas!” And when your baby opens wide for more, you affirm, “Peas are yummy.” Telling your baby what each food is shows respect and builds trust. Speaking positively about a food — “Peas are yummy” — becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. It teaches the child, “My parent just told me this is a good food, and I can believe it!” It can be helpful to use the term “yummy” for objects (food) your child is allowed to put in his or her mouth, and “yucky” for objects (inedible items) your baby is not allowed to put in his or her mouth. My 10-month-old daughter knows to spit out anything I declare “yucky.”

2. Serve whole foods. Boxed baby cereals and jarred baby foods are conveniences, not necessities. Factor in the additional cost and the potential reduction in flavor and nutrients, and such foods are not really all that “convenient.” It does not get much easier than mashing a banana or an avocado. Serve your family foods that can be easily modified for the baby, and you’ve made feeding your baby simple and fun. Having oatmeal for breakfast? Baby can have that too! How about baked sweet potatoes as a side at dinner for your family? Just mash up the potato or break it into bits for the baby to pick up and eat.

3. Allow your baby to self-feed. Babies love to learn how to pick up tiny steamed broccoli “trees” they can feed to themselves! When babies feed themselves, they control how much or how little they eat. Even when babies do not yet have much hand control, you can pre-load a spoon for them and help them guide the spoon to their mouths. Remember, it’s a learning opportunity and not something that needs to be forced by you. These early solid food feedings are far more for experimentation and socialization than for nutrition.

4. Allow your child to make a gigantic mess. I can’t say it any more plainly. Babies need to be able to make a mess at the table. I believe that the root of many food issues is control. If you start trying to control the mess, that can lead to the baby trying to control what he or she will consume. Invest in a big bib (try my free instructions for big bibs with extra long ties or crew neck over-the-head pullover bibs), or strip the baby down naked in a warm room. Babies can get a lot of joy out of playing with their food — and that’s exactly what you want. Yes, playing with food, because ultimately the goal is for your child to enjoy meal times. The first experiences should be fun and relaxed, not anxious and controlled. Food washes off skin and out of clothing, and any time that you spend cleaning your baby, the table, and the floor (and the walls!) will be made up for later when your child eats a nice variety of foods. The time for teaching table manners comes when your child is no longer a baby.

5. Make meals a social event. Babies enjoy being with the rest of the family at the table. They learn from watching you eat, and they benefit from the social interaction. When you share a meal with your baby you have the opportunity to model the behavior you want to see from your child. Take turns with the other adults at the table when it comes to helping the baby eat (these feedings that are not at the breast are perfect for dads to get in on feeding the baby!) Soon enough your baby will become quite good at self-feeding and you will all get to enjoy your meal at the same time!

What are your tips for helping a baby to enjoy solid food? Do you agree or disagree with the tips I have shared so far?

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Supplies for one bib:
~ two 11×10 inch scraps of coordinating cotton print fabric (depending on the width of the fabric–generally 42, 54 or 72 inches–and the fabric print, you can get 12 or more bibs from one yard of each of the two fabrics)
~ one 13×12 inch piece of polyester quilt batting of desired thickness
~ 36-inch strip of solid fabric or wide (7/8 in.) single-fold bias tape for bib tie
~ thread
~ straight pins as desired to pin fabric in place for sewing
~ scissors or rotary cutting tool
~ cardboard or pattern paper

Difficulty level:
Easy for beginning sewers. I recommend that you read all the instructions through before choosing fabrics and again before starting to cut and sew.

Time needed, not including shopping and time to wash, dry and iron the fabric:
2 hours per bib, more or less depending on your sewing experience. (If you make several bibs all at once, it’s most efficient to cut all the fabric first, then quilt and sew each bib, then sew on all the ties.)

Bib care:
Machine wash warm, tumble dry low. These bibs are meant to be used and abused! If desired, choose a dark fabric with a busy print to help hide any stains.

Instructions:

Cut out a template from cardboard or pattern paper. Mine looks a bit rough and uneven after I used a rotary cutting tool to cut out about 70 pieces of fabric but you get the idea. The height is 11 inches, the width is 10 inches, the top sides are 2.5 inches each and the cut-out for the neck is two inches deep/in height. As I said, these measurements are easily adaptable to your own wishes.

Cut out the two coordinating prints with the template and cut the batting slightly larger than the fabric. Sew one of the pieces of fabric right-side up to the batting. You can quilt it however you’d like. In this case I took the easy way out and sewed down three of the straight lines on the print.

Lay the remaining piece of fabric right-side down on the other fabric and batting and sew the edges with a quarter-inch seam, remembering to sew the top edges but keep the neck cut-out open so you can flip the fabric right-side out again.

Trim the excess fabric and batting, leaving the quarter-inch seam around the edges.

Flip the fabric inside-out through the open neck hole. In this picture, I show how to use your index finger to push out the corners.

Here’s what the bib should look like at this stage (front and back).

Here’s another example of coordinating fabrics that would be nice for a girl’s bib.

This unisex bib illustrates an optional finished touch. You can iron the bib on low heat and then sew around the edge. I chose a scalloped edge for an interesting decorative detail.

For the 36-inch long ties (35 inches finished), either cut a strip of solid fabric (1.5 inches or more wide–the wider it is the easier it is to iron and sew) or buy wide (7/8 in.) single-fold bias tape. Bias tape is fabric cut on the bias, which means that the strip’s fibers are at a 45 degree angle to the length of the strip. That makes it easier to sew around the curve of the bib’s neck. If you use regular fabric, you can cut it on the bias (again, 45 degree angle) or not as you wish, and then fold it in on each edge and iron it to look like the bias tape.

Sew the neck of the bib closed as you sewed the other edges (but without any finished detail like the scalloped edge, because you will be sewing the bib tie over this portion anyway). Sew on the bib tie, finishing the ends by folding each end back half an inch and stitching along the length and width of the folded portion. I confess that sewing the ties is my least favorite step and I usually get my wonderful, more patient husband to complete it!

If you’re lucky, you get a finished product admired by a child like this! The trick is to use this two-sided bib to your advantage: the question is not, “Do you want to wear a bib?” but rather, “Which side do you want to wear, bunnies or stripes?” My child happily chose bunnies and there was no fight about her needing to wear a bib!

Note that fabrics are available with prints of children’s favorite television, movie and book characters. They’re a bit more expensive, but if Winnie the Pooh, Dora the Explorer or Raggedy Ann will get your child to wear a bib, they’re worth it!

If you sew a bib from this project, please consider sending me a photo of your finished project (preferably with the bib worn on your adorable child or grandchild) for publication on the blog!

For more fun and inexpensive projects, see:

How to Sew Your Own Baby Sling
How to Make Your Own Beaded Nursing Necklace

Credit: My husband’s aunt gave us bibs like these when my daughter was born. I liked them so much I figured out a way to reproduce them!

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“Breastfeeding has always been a wonderful, easy, and cheap way to feed my children. I don’t recall any particular moments from the past few years of nursing my children, so I’ll tell the stories of beginning to
breastfeed each of my children.

When I got pregnant in 2002, I made a sudden switch from being an
engineer, interested in all the latest technology and science, to
being a mother, interested in all the healthiest and most natural
concepts. I found amazing midwives to care for me during my pregnancy and birth, researched natural childbirth, and didn’t even consider whether or not I would nurse my child.

When my son was born, I was disappointed that he came out blue because that meant that he couldn’t crawl up to my chest and start nursing right away. It took them just seconds to determine that he was fine, though, so they put him on my chest and I shoved my nipple in his mouth before I even took the time to appreciate how gorgeous he was. He took to it like a natural and we never had a moment of trouble with it. He nursed enthusiastically until I had to start weaning because I was unable to become pregnant while breastfeeding. He was about 20 months old at that point.

I got pregnant the month after we started to wean. My daughter also
latched right on, but I had a lot of pain with her, like red hot
needles being jammed through my nipples for the first minute or two
that she was latched on. It was awful. Pain like I have never known,
even after two drug-free labors! When she started rooting one time I
remember thinking that I’d rather go through labor again than suffer
through this one nursing session. Despite that, it never occurred to
me to quit nursing or supplement. Someone suggested that after about a month, when I was still crying during every session, but I knew it wasn’t an option for me. I knew that I would continue nursing her until she quit, even if it hurt that much for the entire time. It just felt like the right thing to do, and heck, it was just pain! Why deprive her (and me) of the benefits just because it hurt? Luckily, the pain started to subside after about eight weeks, and now she nurses without any discomfort.

My kids have each nursed nearly exclusively until they were a year
old. My daughter turns one in a week and she’s just starting to eat
food now. They were both very picky and disinterested in baby food or table food, perhaps because they knew the good stuff was sitting right next to them. I love looking at my daughter’s solid little body and knowing that I have provided every ounce she’s gained. Not only did I get to be her home while she developed for 10 months, but I have been exclusively responsible for her growth ever since she came into the world. What an honor!”

Thanks for sharing your story, Jen! Other readers interested in sharing their stories can find more information here.

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