5 Ways to Get Your Groom Involved
August 18, 2009 by Christine Gooding
Filed under Wedding Planning
I’ve been reading Offbeat Bride’s 9 ways to get grooms involved and I thought, I have some tips I can share that got my own groom involved during the wedding preparations.
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If you have grooms that are reluctant to help or feel lost in all that wedding planning then here are some practical tips that might be of help to you:
1. Sit down with your partner – don’t talk to your partner (or groom-to-be) as if he was under investigation for fraud of something. Talk to him nicely. Let him breathe. Allow him to ask questions about the wedding.
2. Share your plans and ideas with your groom — if you’re like me, you’d have a spreadsheet outlining all the things you need to prepare for and how much you’ve budgeted for each item. Show this to your partner and assign to him tasks that he can do. Allow him to have his own project. Something that he can call his own.
3. Highlight your Groom at the Wedding — I know that any wedding is really a bride’s special day but let him feel special too. If he’s a good writer or orator, let him have a portion during the wedding reception for him to share his thoughts about being married or perhaps he can read a poem he wrote for you? If he’s a singer then let him sing a song for you at the wedding!
4. Don’t make a career out of wedding planning – I know your wedding is the most important day in your life but it doesn’t have to consume your life. Go out on dates and promise not to talk about the wedding.
5. Don’t be a Bridezilla – If your groom makes a mistake on something assigned to him, don’t freak out If you freak out, you’ll freak him out and push him away. Don’t show your true colors before the wedding. He might just back out!
Item number 3 made me smile… because my fiance is going to play the guitar (since he’s good at it) and serenade me during our wedding reception, singing our song (he’s also a good singer). I actually asked him to do this and he’s excited to do so.
aww that’s so sweet! Wouldn’t mind getting a copy of the video of him singing so I can feature here on Our One Heart