Comments on: Wedding Saving Tip: Auction a spot in your bridal party in eBay http://www.blisstree.com/ouroneheart/wedding-saving-tip-auction-a-spot-in-your-bridal-party-in-ebay/ Wedding Planning Tips and Honeymoon Destinations Fri, 04 Dec 2009 04:51:11 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Bohemianmoon http://www.blisstree.com/ouroneheart/wedding-saving-tip-auction-a-spot-in-your-bridal-party-in-ebay/comment-page-1/#comment-610 Bohemianmoon Mon, 07 Jul 2008 17:46:54 +0000 http://www.ouroneheart.com/wedding-saving-tip-auction-a-spot-in-your-bridal-party-in-ebay/#comment-610 Absolutely! After this story hit the news, I searched Ebay for similar listings, as I knew there had to be a slew of them. I was not dissapointed. There were a number listed for either a bridesmaid or a best man/groomsman. I put a couple on my Ebay watch list and....... well........watched them. The one for the Best Man started with a bid of $0.99 with no reserve. The day before the the listing ended, I bid on it~ $0.99. And lo and behold, I won it. I paid with an instant pay and waited to hear from the couple. Two days later I still hadn't heard anything from the happy couple, so I emailed them stating that I won the auction and instantly paid and was curious why I hadn't heard from them with the details. Another day or two went by and I got a notice from Paypal that my payment had been refunded, lol, with a note that said [paraphrase] "Oh, I had no idea that my husband used my Ebay account for this. How embarrasing, I have returned your payment". Yeah, right, the only thing that is embarrasing, is that they did not put a reserve on their auction, and it sold for $0.99. Obviously that would not have bought 5 sugar cubes for the Sweetheart Table, so they renigged, lol, and not very graciously, IMO. If you are going to have the guts to virtually panhandle for funds for a party, have the guts to own it and be honest about it. I don't hold a lot of respect for people that beg others to pay their way, and I have even less for those that cannot be honest about it. They could have had the decency to write and say that they were hoping for more money (DUH!)and they really could not let the Best Man spot go for a mere $0.99, but thank you, blah, blah, blah. But they didn't, and only constructed another charade. FWIW, I didn't accept the refund from Paypal, and am awaiting their response to my email to them inquiring why they refunded the payment, or more to the point, why they renigged on the auction. I am not holding my breath for an honest answer. Absolutely! After this story hit the news, I searched Ebay for similar listings, as I knew there had to be a slew of them.

I was not dissapointed.

There were a number listed for either a bridesmaid or a best man/groomsman. I put a couple on my Ebay watch list and……. well……..watched them.

The one for the Best Man started with a bid of $0.99 with no reserve. The day before the the listing ended, I bid on it~ $0.99. And lo and behold, I won it. I paid with an instant pay and waited to hear from the couple.

Two days later I still hadn’t heard anything from the happy couple, so I emailed them stating that I won the auction and instantly paid and was curious why I hadn’t heard from them with the details.

Another day or two went by and I got a notice from Paypal that my payment had been refunded, lol, with a note that said [paraphrase] “Oh, I had no idea that my husband used my Ebay account for this. How embarrasing, I have returned your payment”.

Yeah, right, the only thing that is embarrasing, is that they did not put a reserve on their auction, and it sold for $0.99. Obviously that would not have bought 5 sugar cubes for the Sweetheart Table, so they renigged, lol, and not very graciously, IMO.

If you are going to have the guts to virtually panhandle for funds for a party, have the guts to own it and be honest about it.

I don’t hold a lot of respect for people that beg others to pay their way, and I have even less for those that cannot be honest about it. They could have had the decency to write and say that they were hoping for more money (DUH!)and they really could not let the Best Man spot go for a mere $0.99, but thank you, blah, blah, blah.

But they didn’t, and only constructed another charade.

FWIW, I didn’t accept the refund from Paypal, and am awaiting their response to my email to them inquiring why they refunded the payment, or more to the point, why they renigged on the auction.

I am not holding my breath for an honest answer.

]]> By: Vivian http://www.blisstree.com/ouroneheart/wedding-saving-tip-auction-a-spot-in-your-bridal-party-in-ebay/comment-page-1/#comment-1525 Vivian Sun, 06 Jul 2008 16:20:07 +0000 http://www.ouroneheart.com/wedding-saving-tip-auction-a-spot-in-your-bridal-party-in-ebay/#comment-1525 With the high prices of food, healthcare, gas, utilities, etc., people need to learn to live within their means instead of doing what basically amounts to asking others to help pay for their wedding. Offering advertising space at a wedding is really tacky. If a couple cannot afford an expensive wedding, don't have an expensive wedding. We had a wedding with 50 guests because we couldn't afford to have a larger wedding. If a couple wants a wedding, save up for it. Sure, this was an idea someone had that worked because there is always someone out there willing to pay up, but even though people can sugar coat this as much as they want, this is basically organized begging. Maybe my husband and I should auction space in our front yard for a sign so someone can advertise, and we can get money to put in a pool or landscape our home, buy a hot tub, or do any one of a number of things we cannot afford to do right now. Whatever happened to taking responsibility for yourselves and your own expenses? If you can't afford it, if you can't save for it, then do without it. With the high prices of food, healthcare, gas, utilities, etc., people need to learn to live within their means instead of doing what basically amounts to asking others to help pay for their wedding.
Offering advertising space at a wedding is really tacky. If a couple cannot afford an expensive wedding, don’t have an expensive wedding. We had a wedding with 50 guests because we couldn’t afford to have a larger wedding. If a couple wants a wedding, save up for it.
Sure, this was an idea someone had that worked because there is always someone out there willing to pay up, but even though people can sugar coat this as much as they want, this is basically organized begging.

Maybe my husband and I should auction space in our front yard for a sign so someone can advertise, and we can get money to put in a pool or landscape our home, buy a hot tub, or do any one of a number of things we cannot afford to do right now.
Whatever happened to taking responsibility for yourselves and your own expenses? If you can’t afford it, if you can’t save for it, then do without it.

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