Sharing is overrated. It’s a source of conflict, disaster really.

There is no reason on planet earth you need to share – unless you want to fight.

We stopped sharing sheets a long time ago. No needs to share each other’s night sweats. No need to wake up irritated when the sheets end up on the floor. People don’t have the same body temperatures. They just don’t. No reason to fight and ruin a marriage over body temperature.

Computers. It’s worth $500 to save a marriage. Buy another computer. I don’t care if it’s social or work, there will be conflict over who is “more important” if you try to share a computer.

Workspace. No. Someone always thinks they’re “more entitled” to spend time there, to move other people’s notes or materials.

Television. We never fight about who gets to watch what anymore. We stopped sharing a TV. There’s no magic on earth that will make a husband and wife want to watch the same stuff on TV.

For heaven’s sake no one should share a car. It will leave one person trapped. Marriages don’t survive traps.

I’m angling for my own bedroom. We’re both entitled to a good night’s sleep and there’s a problem with the snoring. He can’t help it and I can’t sleep through it and our couch sucks. Next house, “guest bedroom” is going to be a priority.

That’s the cause of the one-in-two divorce rate. That’s my explanation for the 7 year itch. After 7 years you realize you bought something, without knowing what was in the package. The ones who stay married find a way to cope with what’s really in the package – like abandoning the idea of sharing – the ones who don’t, get divorced.

I’m telling you right now to avoid the whole trap. If you want marital peace – don’t share.