Just quickly to let you know that Marye & I are talking and working on things. She is tenacious, we had a long talk in a parked van on Saturday. She figured she had a captive audience.
We had our first Christian Counseling session yesterday and a coffee date afterward. Even after the counseling we are still on speaking terms. Nothing new, just the groundwork and our objectives.
Marye and I are committed to one another. That has not changed. It won’t change. As y’all know from reading our posts over the past eight months, …read more

This is difficult, though not as difficult as real life. I am sorry that I have not been as frequent here at MarriageActually as I should have been. This has been good, getting to know some of you as you would let us know you. To say that laying this down is easy is wrong. Doing this has been equally difficult as of late.
Things are not going well in Camelot. My armor is chinked and tarnished. And may need to be retired as well. I am no knight in shining armor and never have …read more

As Marye mentioned, We are bringing up family rule books. What were the rules in the house you grew up in? As for the Audet household there were not a lot of them.
1. If you got something out. Put it away when you are through. That means in the correct place. Things had a orderly place to go. Toys in the basement toy shelf. Tools back in their place in the workbench. Bike in the shed or basement. Plates, food etc. were put in their place in the pantry. Your …read more

Did you ever have one of those George Bailey Christmases? You know, the ones where no matter how hard you tried everythng that could go wrong would go wrong?  The kind that left you, emotionally at least, on a snowy bridge with a bloody lip contemplating the murky, cold water below?

 
With the posts and comments on celibacy and the sexless marriage, let me ask this.   I already said this to Marye.  I love her, and can’t imagine life without her.
But what if I have absolutely no desire?

 
Today I totally went outside my comfort zone.  Every bit as much as Marc leaves his comfort zone when it comes to sex….maybe more so because  he does not hyperventilate and get nauseous and cry…

 
One of the things that Marc and I agreed to when we took on this blog is that we would blog about anything and everything AND we would be transparent and real.  After all, there is nothing helpful about a perfect marriage.  We all need to look at marriages that aren’t perfect and work anyway!

 
Going out in public with a large family is a big challenge, and full of both irritating and humorous moments.  Not from the kids, you  understand but from the adults that have a tendency to be rude.
I have a strong sense of boundaries and personal space, maybe because I was an only child. I have found that people don’t always share my idea of propriety and some cultures are worse than others in our area.
The funniest thing that people have said to me (in my opinion) is, “Wow! You look GREAT for having EIGHT kids!”
I always say thanks but I …read more

 
I remember it in the early part of our relationship and the first years of our marriage.  Now I have prescription drugs & can’t go for a roll…

 
We have been writing here for two months now.  It hardly seems possible. Marc and I have enjoyed getting to know some of you and I hope you have enjoyed getting to know us!