From AA’s Twelve & Twelve, page 86;
“There can be only one consideration which should qualify our desire for a complete disclosure of the damage we have done. That will arise in the occasional situation where to make a full revelation would seriously harm the one to whom we are making amends. Or – quite as important – other people. We cannot, for example, unload a detailed account of extramarital adventuring upon the shoulders of our unsuspecting wife or husband. And even in those cases where such a matter must be discussed, let’s try to avoid harming third parties, whoever they …read more

“Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.”
First Things First – changing wherever to whenever gives a different meaning…
The Very Spirit;
“The readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well-being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine.”
Full consequences. Not partial, half, a little bit or just some. Full.
The only exceptions? Cases where our disclosure would cause actual harm.
Not delaying because we are afraid…
“Earnestly asking God’s help and guidance – meanwhile resolving to do the right thing …read more