So, surely we all have those things in marriage that we wish we could change in our spouses. You know, those petty habits of theirs that aren’t going to make or break the marriage, but that you just really wish they would fix already!!! We’re not the only ones, right?
So, for me, it’s Bald Man’s lack of calling when he’s coming home late from work. It is so frustrating to have a meal warm on the table (I’m sure I’ve done that a few times at least!) only to have it go cold by the time he …read more

Barone, that is, matriarch character of Everybody Loves Raymond. Cuz I could totally turn into her (she says as if she’s not already).

The latest being the day that Bald Man called sick into work. He doesn’t often, really. He has to be pretty bad to not go into the office. As in, he wasn’t dying or anything, but only because he knows I’d be really ticked if he went and died on me with all these kids around and such.
So, anyway, he calls a co-worker to let them know that he won’t be in …read more

It’s not him, it’s me…

I’ve always been a cluttered person. In jr. high/high school, I was the one with the bed arranged perpendicular to the door so that all of my junk/clothes/books/notes, etc. could be “hidden” on the floor on the other side of my bed. I had a closet which had a floor, though no eyewitness could prove it. I have no clue what all was under my bed, and couldn’t have figured out with less than three hours time and an entire team of archeologists working with me to search the rubble. My grandma …read more

No, the size of the diamond is not the indicator of a good marriage. Good marriages and bad marriages alike come in all shapes, sizes, weights, and purities of gemstones. And sometimes no gemstones at all.
No, the sign of a good marriage that I’m thinking of is one that keeps coming up lately. It is this: A good marriage is one in which both members of the union feel lucky and sometimes downright honored to get to be the significant other with their spouse.
I’m not saying that it’s an all-the-time feeling, or that it’s not also coupled …read more

One of my biggest pet peeves is to be with a couple and to hear one person speak to the other like a child. Now, certainly there are a number of behaviors that can fit this description, and can fall anywhere on the spectrum from mildly annoying to downright abusive. And if it’s gotten so bad that I’ve called it downright abusive, I assume you know what I think of it. ‘Nuff said.
Anyway, for some reason, it bothers me most when it’s a wife sounding like she’s “mothering” her husband. I don’t think that’s sexist of …read more

Yeah, yeah, I know what I do that ticks him off. Wanna know? Okay, I’ll tell ya.
1. Our recent whirlwind road trip reminded me of this one. I am that annoying person in the passenger’s seat that sucks in air through my teeth and grabs hold of the dashboard every time I think he’s not slowing down enough for the red light or for the car in front of us. Why, yes I DO know how irritating that is, just haven’t figured out how not to do it, yet. Of course, I think it …read more