Here is a common pattern that occurs when problems arise in relationships:  get hurt, argue, resolve, apologize, move on.  If you are in a relationship where you seem to argue quite frequently, you are probably more familiar with this pattern than others.  If you are in a serious relationship you don’t want to break up everytime you have an argument, so you just let it all out, apologize, then make-up and move on.  But maybe there is something more that you can be doing to cut down on the frequency of these occurrences in your relationship…maybe an apology is not …read more

I got the book, The Law of Connection: the Science of Using NLP to Create Ideal Personal and Professional Relationships, by Michael J. Losier, author of The Law of Attraction, in the mail today. 
I’ve only been able to read the first few pages, but so far I’ve learned that good communication is affected by rapport, calibrating, and communication style. The way you relate to others has to do with your ability to recognize, understand, and get in-tune to another person’s way of communication.  I’m going to read the book this weekend and get back to you ASAP with a review.
I …read more

Okay, we’ve all had a knock-down, drag out fight with our spouse. Sometimes, we’ve said a few things we wish we didn’t. But if you’re the type of couple that argues so hard you lose sight of what you’re really trying to say, I think you’ll find this piece of advice of interest.

According to an article on parenting.com, remind yourself to “use your words.” Yes, the exact advice that you give your toddler who is throwing a temper tantrum. When you and your spouse are getting so angry that you’re actually bringing up old fights or …read more

How many of you here have ever dealt with this? I’m sure if you have kids past two you’ve probably dealt with this a time or two. What about sibling rivalry? I don’t care how much you say they love one another, it is bound that they are going to
bicker and bicker they will. They are going to argue to the point you want to leave your own house and let them have at it, hey at least you won’t here the arguing anymore.
Tonight, that’s exactly what happened…well minus me walking out. But I did end up separating the two.
Here’s …read more

I was five years old when my parents divorced. I lived with my dad and visited with my mom on holidays and in the summer. A few years after the divorce my dad remarried. And a few years after that the fighting began.
By the time I was in high school, the relationship between my stepmom and I really deteriorated. Part of it (actually most of it) was my teenage angst and part of it was my stepmom’s inexperience at being a stepmom. I thought she loved my half-brother and sister more. She thought I was a spoiled brat. Honestly I …read more