Let’s be realistic and accept that couples fight.  If you have never had a disagreement with your partner then you probably aren’t expressing yourself or discussing serious issues.  Fights are so difficult but, if done right, they can have extremely successful results.  You want to feel comfortable expressing your viewpoint and you want to stand up for yourself, but what should you do if you get in a fight?

I just read the most amazing advice from the fabulous Dr. Phil about “How to Fight Fair.”  I strongly advise every couple to read these tips and discuss them together so you …read more

I was about to write this post about the importance of “picking your battles”, when I read Michelle’s 5 Tips For Better Communication and saw that this was one of her tips!  It is obviously an important issue to be addressed in relationships with significant others, spouses, children, friends, or anyone that you have ever disagreed with.
I have observed, and experienced personally, many times the problem of spending too much time and energy arguing about issues that those involved should probably just let slide.  Think before you speak and don’t worry yourself over small issues!  It sounds easy to offer …read more

You must have heard this advice before, right?
“You should never go to bed angry.”
This is one of the marriage fallacies that I believed in for the first few months – but quickly grew to realize that it is like telling someone to keep driving when they  are tired. If you are arguing right before bed, then that was just poor form on your part. But it happens – sometimes because one of you just felt like you had to get something off your chest. Other times, because something happened unexpectedly that’s out of your control.
Either way, you’re arguing…and you’re tired. …read more

In every relationship, I reckon one of the things you have to do as a couple is to find a common ground where you practice or apply leveled expectations. Arguments usually arise when one or both parties refuse to move to accommodate the other’s needs. Er, well — among other things.
Here’s what I think.
There are some key things that we need to concern ourselves to find a solution to any problem. One of them is to find a way to compromise.
Communicate. I’ve said it before. Communication between two people is important. You have to find a way to establish the …read more

So, tell me —
Are women master manipulators in relationships?
Curious thought, I must say.
I was talking to a co-worker of mine about this quote I shared when she told me that it’s true. She does believe that women, by nature, have the ability to manipulate a situation to turn in their favour. I have to admit, to hear a married woman say that, surprised me. Then I’m caused to ponder on the thought some more and I realised that I, too, was guilty of being a “manipulator” at some point in my past relationship — the bitchy kind at that. …read more

“There are two theories about how to win an argument with a woman. Neither one works.”
I lifted this quote from ma friend Rico over at Fool for Five.
Isn’t it quite apparent that I’m trying to start a gender war here? LOL. Nah. I’m just playing. I just found the quote or, uh, zen teaching(?) equally funny as the last quote I shared to you guys.
Read more of Fattifatbastard’s guide, I suggest you brace yourself for more laughs. Enjoy!

In a relationship, whether if you’ve been in it for a long time now or you’re just starting, what really glues it together is the kind of communication that the two of you have.
Of course, I’ve got to admit that it can take a certain amount of time before you guys set a pace and be comfortable with each other but the thought of “establishing” it is there. The two of you are just simply working on it.
There are certain considerations you have to bear in mind, i.e. time, method, manner, material, etc. It’s not as stuck up as it …read more

No matter how good a friend they are.
Never ever take for granted that your current significant other will be understanding of a friendship you have with an old flame!
“It’s just lunch” — “It’s just drinks” — “It’s just a movie” will NOT fly!
Sure, it may fly for a while, but burried somewhere beneath that understanding exterior lays an argument waiting to happen.
When you least expect it, that dinner/drinks or movie will be thrown up in your face like a bucket of ice water.
If it’s just lunch – drinks or a movie, there’s absolutely NO reason why your significant other should …read more