He is currently back with his ex, who is the mother of his youngest child. They were split for a long time, most of two years, unless of course, they were not and he just said that they were. I would not have known the difference – we live in different states and he was the one who traveled to visit me.

He has her listed as “complicated” on Facebook. Not “in a relationship with.” Just “complicated.”  I think that sucks. Either do it or don’t. Doesn’t she deserve that?

I spent almost a year of our relationship waiting on him. He’d disappear every once in awhile, then come back and be fine. It was confusing and depressing and I think I drove everyone who loves me crazy by putting up with him.

I recently read the book, He’s Just Not That Into You, by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. I read it at a point when I had not heard from him for a few months. I wanted to let go, but for some weird reason, I could not. The book opened my eyes.

It’s very simple really. If he does not call you, he’s not into you. If he does not pursue you, he’s not into you. If you have to make excuses for him, he’s not into you. If you have to put any sort of extra effort in and he does not immediately fall all over you, then he is not into you. If he says, “it’s complicated,” then he’s not into you.

I wish that the book was required ready for all women, everywhere. I found it that helpful. And there’s this sense of peace in knowing that yeah, it really IS him and he’s a bit of a jerk. Well, actually, to use my ex-boyfriend’s own words when finally apologizing for his behavior, he’s “a creep.”

If you or anyone you know is in love with a man who is rude or absent or just plain destructive to a woman’s soul, then read this book, because if a man is into you, he’s not going to hurt you. He is going to move heaven and Earth to be with you and you will definitely be sure of his feelings.

Image credit: Barnes and Noble.com

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I Think He’s Just Not That Into Her

IMG: Sxc.hu

Now he and the rest of the kids on the street, including his sister claims he NEVER did anything wrong. But that’s not what the paper says. Who would you believe? All week the kids have been upset that the bus driver stopped because someone was taller than their seat so she believed they were standing. They insist that she’s shorter than half of them, I have not met her yet. I will be meeting with her tomorrow.

The note, in both his and her defense is one where you mark the box so there really isn’t much of a choice you are either:

- distracting driver
- fighting/scuffling, etc
- bad mouth, language, etc

Then on the opposite side it needs to be filled in:
- tampering with the bus
- restricted materials/guns/knives, etc
- disrespect and refuses to cooperate

He got the first one on the top and the bottom one, so I guess in a way it isn’t AS bad as it could be but still upsetting. Her note to me was SoccerBoy believes sitting on his backpack and knees is acceptable. This is unacceptable behavior.

Okay in defense of my son, I know for a fact he isn’t on a backpack…he refuses to take one to school. So either he’s sitting completely on his knees or everyone is right and she is shorter and can’t see over his head. What would you do if you were me? Accept it and move on or talk with the driver?

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First Pink Slip

“He was surrounded by movie stars and celebrities and this young man who neither drinks nor smokes was intoxicated with it all…Unfortunately, he lacked the resources to maintain the opulent lifestyle of his new friends. Even more unfortunately, he had almost unfettered access to hundreds of thousands of dollars with few controls on his spending ability, until it was too late.”

Rafaello Follieri, pleaded guilty last month to defrauding investors out of $2.4 million. Anne Hathaway was not found to be culpable by investigators in any of Follieri’s admitted crimes. Apparently, the fact that she is a movie star was the thing that pushed him into a life of crime. What an ass.  He lies, he cheats, he steals and it’s her fault because she has wealthy friends and is successful at what she does? 

I’m tired of excuses, tired of people who use weakness as an excuse for bad behavior.  Anyone past the age of 5 has heard of the Golden Rule, has some idea of what right and wrong means. Don’t do the wrong thing just because you are able to get away with it for awhile, be an adult, a responsible citizen, and if you’ve got baggage, as we all do, carry it yourself, don’t add it to your partner’s already heavy load. 

In the words of Cordelia Chase, former Buffy Scoobie and ex-resident of Sunnydale:

“…deal with it. Embrace the pain, spank your inner moppet, whatever, but get over it.”

How about you, do you have a Hathaway-esque story to tell?  Anybody ever blame you for their inability to live by the rules?  Do you know someone who won’t own up to their fraudulent behavior? 

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It’s Not My Fault