I’ve always heard a lot about closure. A person will say they “need closure” or someone will advise another person to “get closure.” I thought it was a load of BS. Nothing anyone said or could say was going to make it easier for me to move on. The circumstances that lead up to a breakup hurt and time was the only thing that would lessen that pain, not closure.
Closure represented a sort of door. Open door=pain. Closed door=healing.  No closed door ever truly changed the way I felt. It could not be that easy.
I was in a relationship that …read more

I met my now-best-friend when she began dating a friend of mine about three years ago. They were very on and off, and on again, but never with a shortage of drama.
They broke up for what appears to be the final time in January, and since then, had not seen each other, or even spoken, except for the occasional IM. (The age of technology has created the lack of need for any sort of personal communication, ever.)
Last night, we were out getting our ritual pedicures when her phone started to ring. It was the ex.
Apparently, he had a biz meeting …read more

I’m a huge fan of Bonnie Hunt and her new show. Bonnie and her mom, Alice come up with some of the greatest things to say. Often, it hits a nerve with me (in a good way). This morning she was talking about divorces and breakups and Bonnie said, “If someone misuses you, don’t take it personally, just know that it says a lot more about them, than it does about you.”
I think this is important, for lots of reasons.