I understand.  I’m a parent, too, and I’ve battled anorexia as both a teen and an adult.

To help you gain an understanding of how insipid anorexia, bulimia and binge eating can be, I’ve compiled a list of eight warning signs that an eating disorder could be on the horizon.

1.  Your child constantly complains of being “fat”.

I don’t care if your child IS currently overweight — do not ignore this sign!  If all your kid talks about is how big he or she feels, it’s a problem.  And even if your son or daughter could stand to lose a few pounds, it isn’t normal for kids (especially little ones) to obsess over the shape of their bodies.

2.  Your child runs to the bathroom after eating.

Okay, so this isn’t always a bad sign — sometimes they simply have to do their “business”.  But if it’s happening after every meal and he or she takes a considerable amount of time in the lavatory, it could signal something’s amiss, such as purging.  (Remember — purging doesn’t have to follow bingeing.  Many people with ED-NOS purge just about anything they ingest, whether it’s a large portion or a teensy one.)  Listen for sounds of vomiting or tooth brushing after every trip to the bathroom.

3.  Your child’s friends are all on diets.

Warning!  Danger!  Peer pressure has been known to trigger anorexia and bulimia, especially when every member in the group your child pals around with is regularly dieting.  Though you can’t necessarily choose your child’s friends after a certain age, you can help him or her see that the friends who think they need to diet are mistaken.

4.  Your child is withdrawn, moody, ashen, lethargic.

Okay, so this sounds like most ‘tweens and teens, right?  Not so!  I teach kids of this age, and the idea that they’re all a bunch of brats is simply not true.  Sure, they get in bad moods… but don’t you?  If a dark mood persists, however, it could warn of clinical depression, which is known to go hand-in-hand with the onset of eating disorders.

5.  Your child stops eating foods he or she used to enjoy.

Cake is out.  Candy is verboten.  Meat?  Ha!  Though there’s nothing wrong with a kid changing tastes in food, watch out for signs that he or she is starting to eliminate major types of foods — fats, sugars, carbs — from his or her daily intake.  I know that becoming a vegan (or at least a vegetarian) is “in vogue” right now, but keep a watchful eye.  Many anorexics hide their conditions by claiming that they no longer “like” or “want to eat” groups of foods.

6.  Your child wears heavier clothes, even when it’s hot outside.

Red flag!  In 100 degree temps, most kids want to at least wear a short sleeve t-shirt with shorts!  But I’ve seen MANY young men and women dressed like they’re ready to hit the ski slopes during a heat wave.  Eating disorders rob a person of his or her ability to regulate body temperature; if your son or daughter is sporting several layers in July, keep an eye on him or her.

7.  Your child loves to talk about eating disorders.

This was me.  I loved to talk about anorexia.  I borrowed books on eating disorders from the library again and again.  I wrote ESSAYS on eating disorders, for crying out loud!  (And my mother made fun of one of them in eighth grade, by the way.  That was at the beginning of my disorder.  I really resented her for that for a long time.)  Many of us who have tangoed with ana or mia can’t get enough information on the conditions.  We crave knowledge about this insidious disease.  (Hey, look at me — I’m in recovery and I’m STILL talking about it!)

8.  Your child suddenly wants a scale.

No child innocently wakes up one day desperately wanting a scale.  A Hannah Montana CD, yes.  The latest $100+ pants, sure.  A trip to Disneyworld, absolutely.  But not a freakin’ scale.  So if your kid starts bugging you to buy one (or goes out and buys one for him- or herself out of the blue), don’t just shrug your shoulders.  Pry a little.  Be a parent.  Be tough.  Be loving.

Remember:  You are the adult.  I don’t care how much your kids bitch and moan about you being unfair or not understanding them.  You’re often the FIRST PERSON to see the signs that an eating disorder could be in the cards.  Don’t look away — please.

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