But on April 16, Jaheem appeared happy when he came home from school with a glowing report card. It may have been a glimmer of hope for his mother Masika Bermudez that her darling boy may have found peace with the situation. But later that evening, when her calls for him to come to dinner were not answered, she and Jaheem’s sister went up to his bedroom and found his body in a closet hanging by a belt.

This, just weeks after another 11-year-old boy, Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover, from Massachusetts, took his own life after relentless taunts by his peers.

What most surprised me is that DeKalb County, Georgia has what experts called an “exemplary” anti-bullying program in place that included an awareness program and a specially trained staff member to address the issue. Kids even were asked to sign a no-bullying pledge.

So what went wrong? And what can we, as parents, do to stop our child from bullying or being bullied, since we cannot rely simply on our schools?

Here’s yet another resource, a free Bully Reporting Site powered by www.BullyStoppers.com where parents and students can provide details of bullying situations. And, here is an example what the reports look like. The anonymous bully reporting is designed to help students who suffer from bullying, decrease behaviors that build over time and lead to violent outbursts, create a deterrent effect against bullying in a school or bus, and prevent embarrassing students who report problems.

Will it help? Who knows. The U.S. Secret Service National Threat Assessment Center seems to think that such a system could have prevented many of the countless school shootings over the years. Regardless, a workable solution must be found before another child kills himself.

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According to this young boy’s mother, he was constantly getting picked on at school. Kids made fun of him, called him gay, said he acted like a girl. Eventually it took a toll, he didn’t want to deal with it any longer and took his own life. Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover was found hung by an electrical cord, his mom found him like this only moments before she was due to go to a meeting at the school over the bullies.

”They were always saying, ‘you’re gay, you must be gay, you act like a girl.”

There are no words I can say to ever make her feel better, this was her baby. I’m so sorry this has happened. I will also say, tonight readers check on yours (or tomorrow), find out how they are doing in school and see how the kids treat them. Start an open communication. Don’t forget to tell them how much you love them.

In the meantime, how do you deal with bullies? Has your child been a victim of a bully at school? Is there a way to end this?

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11-Year Old Commits Suicide Due to Bullies