My sister made the comment to my mom that, “Ed is a ‘Matt.’”  Matt is her husband. He’s a wonderful guy – funny, handsome, great family man – so this was high praise.

This past week, a couple of women have reported that they either slept with Ed (Lindsey Johnson) and/or recieved texts saying that Jillian Harris is not his “type,” and that he prefers “blondes” to brunettes like Harris, since he and Harris became engaged.

Johnson told Us Weekly, “I feel gross, used and completely violated. It shocks me that he was able to do something like that to me.”

Steffen, who dated Swiderski before he began filming ‘The Bachelorette’ in March, says the reality star tried to entice her into bed a week after he proposed to Harris. She says of her decision to go public with the allegation: “Ed’s not worth my time, but if I can help someone avoid heartbreak, I’m gonna do that.”

At the After the Rose show, the show that follows the finale (The Finale’s Finale?), Ed and Jillian said that they had spent most of the time since their taped engagement together. I think that they said that they only had spent 5 days apart. Ed slept with Johnson in the week following the engagement.

Ed is not a Matt. Not even a little bit.

Jillian Harris has spoken to the press about the issue of Ed and his other women. She said that they are trying “...to find humor…” in the situation. Your fiance slept with another woman. He said that you were not his type. Where is the humor in that?  

What made this man believe that this would not come out?  Or maybe he didn’t care, figured he’d talk his way out of the trouble?  I do not get cheating or cheaters. Does falling in love on a television show mean that it’s all fake? I don’t believe it was fake for Jillian. I didn’t watch the show that much, but when I did, I noticed that she really agonized over some of what she went through. Dating a whole bunch of good-looking guys at once must be very stressful. (I’m only partially sarcastic there).

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Ed Swiderski Is Not Catch

I read Ann Landers, Dear Abby, and pretty much any other advice columnist that I could get find back in the day. I’m not sure if it was the advice itself or the people telling their troubles that interested me the most. (Probably the troubles – I am naturally nosey). 

I was reading a recent column that covered a husband having an emotional affair with his boss. The emotional affair has the man – married 25 years – spending most of his time with a boss that he admits to feeling an attraction for. He buys her gifts, they spend off-time during the weekend together, they go out for drinks after work, alone. I get the impression that believing that this affair is merely emotional is wishful thinking. It sounds like that is his way of safely explaining the time spent with the boss. He has it out in the open so wife can’t “discover” it and freak out. Wow. That sucks. This cheater sounds either very devious, very smart, and like a real ass.

This emotional affair, with a co-worker, it’s  the next big thing in cheating. People work together they build bonds, they have a team-mentality, and one thing leads to another.

How do people avoid affairs?  How do you keep your partner from cheating?  You can’t, can you? Either they want to be with you and they want to honor that commitment or they don’t.

Sometimes I think about cheating and I wonder if there’s more opportunity to cheat these days or if people simply have a weaker will, a looser set of morals than they used to have. Or possibly cheating happens at the same rate that it always has.

What do you think? If anyone has anything to say, I’d be very interested in your opinion.

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Is It Possible To Avoid Infidelity?

Contemplating cohabitation?  Then I suggest first perusing the checklist at Living Together – Should You Move in With Your Guy? – Cosmopolitan.com.

Is it ever a good idea to give a cheat a second chance?  If you are on the fence then check out He Cheated – Do You Take Him Back or Dump Him? – Cosmopolitan.com 

What is your ideal “type?”  Find out who he is and where to find him in How to Reach Soul-Mate Status with Any Man – Relationships, Romance, Men – Finding Love – Cosmopolitan.com

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Quick Reads: Cheaters, Cohabitation, and Cosmo Explains All