In my previous article I addressed the Definiton of Cheating as a starting point for a discussion about the possible beginning, middle, and end situations that occur in a cheating situation.  Every cheating situation is different, but the main two choices that you have after this occurs are 1. break up or 2. stay together.
Most of the time when you’ve been cheated on you will want to immediately end the relationship that you are in.  If your relationship has been a struggle and you believe that the cheating was only a manifestation of other problems in your relationship like distrust, …read more

Dealing with the past is one of the most difficult challenges in relationships.  And the most difficult issue to move on from and leave in the past is definitely cheating.  If you are in a relationship where you or your partner has cheated, you are probably going through one of the greatest struggles of your life.  You probably feel pain, confusion, guilt, lack of self-worth, anger, and many other extreme emotions that interfere with all aspects of your life and make you doubt who you are.  But what should you do next?  Where do you and your partner go from …read more

Everyone has the ability to snoop around to find private information about their partner.  Technology has made snooping so easy with email, texting, Facebook, and tons of programs that can basically record anything that you are interested in recording.  Automatic log-ins and saved passwords give instant access to seemingly private accounts.  Even though the ability to snoop is sitting right in front of you, is the action worth risking your relationship?  When do you breach trust and when is it acceptable to invade each other’s privacy?  Unfortunately there is not a simple answer to these questions so I will discuss …read more

To follow-up on Michelle’s infidelity theme, I wanted to discuss the unfortunate issue of getting caught on the opposite end of cheating.  It is definitely more common to find cheaters lurking amongst us these days, so it is also more common that you could find yourself accidentally dating someone who is cheating on someone else.
I honestly believed that the idea that someone could be dating more than one person at the same time was something that only happened in movies or to extremely naive people.  But unfortunately I am finding out that it is becoming more and more common!  It’s …read more

Have you ever read Dear Margo? Margo Howard is the daughter Ann Landers and she writes the same sort of advice column that Ann was famous for.
I read Ann Landers, Dear Abby, and pretty much any other advice columnist that I could get find back in the day. I’m not sure if it was the advice itself or the people telling their troubles that interested me the most. (Probably the troubles – I am naturally nosey). 
I was reading a recent column that covered a husband having an emotional affair with his boss. The emotional affair has the man – married …read more

Have you heard about the police chef in Ohio who was caught on video “canoodling” with another officer, while in a police cruiser and on the job?  And there was a prisoner in the back seat. From what I saw of the video, they don’t really do much, just kissing,  cuddling, but both officers are married. He’s 57 and she’s 30.
On the day that the video was taken, June 2, the two officers were driving back from Cincinnati, where they picked up a burglary suspect, to their town of Perry Township, 50 miles away. In the video, the female officer is …read more

My friend Scarlet is still plugging away with the online dating. She’s been getting a lot of responses from Singlesnet, but some of them are odd. For example, a guy came right out and asked her about a friends with benefits situation. I told her that guys will throw something like that out there thinking that the odds are on their side – eventually someone will be interested.
This morning she sent me an email telling me to check her Singlesnet  message box. (She has me check the interesting ones, because sometimes it’s good to have an extra set of eyes …read more

Today, I ran across this article that mentions The Ashley Madison Agency. The Ashley Madison Agency is an online dating service for married people.  Their tag line is “Life is short. Have an affair.” 
Seriously?  ”Life is short” and you are going to spend part of it doing something that leads to wasting a large part of it plotting and lying and feeling guilty?  You couldn’t just… I don’t know… eat donut?  Buy yourself something over-priced?  Wouldn’t pretty much anything be a better way to cheat ?

“The World’s Premier Discreet Dating Service” has more than 3.5 million members. There are approximately 8.5 men for every …read more

According to the teasers for today’s Oprah the first Why Do Men Cheat? show didn’t go over that great because it let men off.
Gist of the show – “Men are lonely because they are basically emotionally retarded and the only communication they understand is sex, so wives should do it more. Oh, and men always need to win.”
Duh.
Uh, here’s something to study: why women are sick to death of being married to it or dating it.
Trying to communicate with a husband is, at times for some women (not myself, of course), like beating your head against a …read more