Another thing is that I am certain that there are more than five points in which you should consider before entertaining his advances but I’m only limiting my list into these points for now.

Disapprobation at home
It may not be the case for some individuals but here in my country, it’s widely practiced that the person you do choose to date or enter into a relationship with is or should be someone whom you’re family will approve of. It may be in terms of want of a connection or general character disposition, this person should possess traits that the family should approve of. Plainly, he should not just get along with your family but also should be the sort that your family will entrust you to without fear or resentment.

Clarity of his intentions
Cynical as it appears, one should really stop and think, ask the appropriate questions, to determine his true intentions. Is he courting you because you’re the one or just a maybe? Is his interest relative to convenience? Does he show signs of sound judgment? Is there a history of repetitive behaviour doesn’t sit well with you? More importantly, you shouldn’t find yourself in the position of trying to convince yourself that his intentions are in sync with your expectations.

Depth of his affection
As quite normal for most newly formed attractions, singling you out from the rest of the other female genders will have its certain appeal. You will hear words that will solidify your own belief in his affections toward you. Time can indeed tell — no matter how much of a cliché that may sound — if his feelings goes far beyond the physical. Are you willing to get involved, surrender your heart, at an undetermined depth of affection? Will you be able to survive the occurrence of a change of heart? Or are you ready to bare all, render yourself vulnerable, to a half-baked relationship?

Appeal of his profession
Hard to believe that I’m including this bit on the list but, yes, I am. With good reason. At face value, it may look superficial but I’d like to bring your attention to the fine print. For men, their professions form a great part of their life. Some even equate their person to their profession. And my main concern is if your built to be a partner to that. That’s what we, women, will be, right? Their partners in life. There some things in this life that will be difficult for us too understand and we can only be lucky if the man we end up with will take time to teach us what they do. Will his profession hold your interest long? Will you tolerate conversations and dates which will revolve around it? It’s true that if we find ourselves the subject of interest of a successful man of his profession, we’ll highly be flattered and attracted to him in some way. But to actually have that man become part of your life is a different thing. You have to consider your needs, too.

Subject of his eloquence
This is where the subject of I, You and Us will be talked about (pun intended). I reckon it’s quite important for you to notice how he speaks, with emphasis on the matter not just the manner. The latter is only important if you’re particular about it. The former will tell you just how much of yourself will be visible in the relationship and how much of himself. Will your thoughts truly matter? Will he pay attention to your accomplishments? Will he acknowledge your talents and just how much you add onto his life? Or will you forever be a groupie whom he expects undivided attention and adoration? And this is if he is indeed eloquent in the first place. A major part of your relationship will rely on effective communication, you see.

These are just my two cents. I just want to share these things in the hope that it will help other women in choosing the right partner. Like I said earlier, there may be more considerations that women should know about. Feel free to add your own thoughts on the matter.

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5 Considerations Before Entertaining His Advances

It’s a pretty straightforward question, wouldn’t you agree?

We’ve heard this question asked quite a number of times in our lifetime. Some may have readily chosen an answer and others are still quite hesitant to make that decision.

Personally, I’d choose the person whom I love and be with him. If he chooses to be with me then there’s a hope that he also made his choice to be with the person he loves, hence, both of us ending up with partners we love and who in return loves us back.

I have to admit that this won’t be true all the time, however, I hang on to the hope that love brings.

Your turn.

Who would you choose?

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Tackling a Perennial Question, Who would You Choose?

We all have our ideals when it comes to choosing a partner. We come up with a list either by superficial standards or by principles. I guess it will be tested once we face that moment whether we are going to choose the person who matches all but one trait, physical or personality, which we think weighs a lot. We then face a dilemma that basically asks, will you settle for anything or anyone less than your ideal?

A friend of mine is going through such a dilemma right now. She has found a guy who treats her right and is offering the kind of relationship she has always wanted — yes, there’s a HUGE “but” in that statement.

The guy is a couple of inches shorter than she is.

Whoops! Before anyone goes judgmental on my friend over here, consider the situation, first.

Romantically, I’d say I agree with most people that it’s a bit unfair to take that against the guy. He is, after all, a good guy and I know he will love and treat my friend well. However, ideally, it would look a lot less awkward for my friend who’s gorgeously tall and pretty to be with a guy who looks and is shorter by comparison.

She’s not totally against the idea of getting involved with him since his good qualities seem to overshadow this physical, er, shortcoming (again! me and my puns! sorry.. gah.). She’s just in a bind cuz I know what kind of thoughts are rushing through her mind as she tries to make the decision (it’s a “been there, done that” kind of thing, well, sort of..).

Anyway, I left her with these thoughts, though. Mine. Heh.

“I don’t want to see you get cornered into going into a relationship with someone who’s not truly deserving of you but if he makes you happy and I mean TRULY happy, as in HAPPY, HAPPY.. then he has my vote.”

I always believe in never settling for anything less — well, at least, eversince my sister told me that piece of wisdom, that is. Heehee.

I know it really wouldn’t matter if I say the right things (or the wrong ones for that matter), she’s the one who has to make the decision. But, humour me on this, if she was your friend, what kind of advice would you give her?

For now, I’m keeping my distance. I will not meddle in her affairs. No one should. But I will be here to support whatever decision she makes!

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Dating Dilemma: He Falls Short