The advice we received ranged from ‘Of course you should live together first’ to ‘You should absolutely not live together until you are married.’ Some people landed in the middle with ‘You should at least be engaged first.’ As if an engagement ring was going to somehow seal our future as a perfectly happy post-nuptial couple.

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Well, we have never been very good about taking anyone’s advice. We knew the first time we started looking for places to live that the time wasn’t right. And we knew a few years later when it was. At that point, we were both so busy trying to jumpstart our careers, that we hardly saw each other at all. Which led to petty fights and insecurities when we did finally see each other.

That all ended when we moved in with each other. The silly arguing stopped (of course there were plenty of decent disagreements that did come up every once in a while, mostly just while we adjusted to cohabitation) and we just sort of remembered why we like each other so much. So sure…it took the mystery out of ‘playing house’, but should that really be a surprise anyway?

I have never regretted living with Paul before we got married – though I understand there are some people out there who would never even consider it. This is just my personal experience, but for whatever that is worth, I would say it’s the best sequence of steps through couplehood.

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To Live Together Before Marriage…Or Not.

Contemplating cohabitation?  Then I suggest first perusing the checklist at Living Together – Should You Move in With Your Guy? – Cosmopolitan.com.

Is it ever a good idea to give a cheat a second chance?  If you are on the fence then check out He Cheated – Do You Take Him Back or Dump Him? – Cosmopolitan.com 

What is your ideal “type?”  Find out who he is and where to find him in How to Reach Soul-Mate Status with Any Man – Relationships, Romance, Men – Finding Love – Cosmopolitan.com

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