I just read a thought-provoking piece of advice from advice columnist E. Jean in Elle magazine’s November issue.  A self-proclaimed nice guy (characterized as shy, clean-cut, good job, drug- and alcohol-free) asked E. Jean why women would choose to date five different types of jerks before even considering dating him.  He even stated these specific jerk types as A. users, B. jailbirds, C. druggies, D. abusers, and E. cheaters.  I’m not sure that we need to go so far as to categorize “bad guys”…let’s just say that anyone who was overly selfish, caused you to feel bad about yourself, and/or …read more

Sometimes I hear the kids arguing and one of them will use a word or phrase that is not a normal part of their vocabulary. For example, not many 17 year-old boys would say this, “You are the most deceitful person that I have ever met.” Instead they would say something like this, “You are a liar.”

Sometimes people get jealous. They worry that someone is slipping away, that they are losing their influence. They worry that they might be losing the love or complete attention of another person and when this happens, they turn to coercion. They hit on a person’s frailties, on …read more

Yet another piece on body language…..
This time it’s The Walk. I am a certified Massage Therapist and in my training, we covered posture, walk, the importance of alignment, etc. Stand up straight, align shoulders, hips, knees, ankles for a more natural, more fluid gait – that’s what I remind myself when I think about it. Apparently a woman’s gait also gives a clue to what kind of orgasms she has, too. What? Oh geez. Yeah, that’s it, it’s how she walks that does it. 
Body language articles, I always read them. I find it interesting that so much focus is spent …read more

Image by Henry8.0 via FlickrSince I’m a woman, I can’t say what men hate to see in a woman’s dating site profile, but I sure can tell you what I can’t stand to see in a guy’s profile. This list is by no means exhaustive, complete, or in any particular order.

“I like a woman who takes pride in her appearance.” – Easy translation on this is, “I like women who aren’t fat.” Okay, sure… we all have things we will and won’t tolerate in terms of physical attraction, but the guys who say this either say NOTHING ELSE about what …read more

I’ve met quite a number of women whose self-esteem can be sold for rocks. This explains their lack of prospects, bad relationships or simply a very sad, dark countenance.
How do these women measure their worth?
I had wondered about that over and over. So, I ended up asking myself that very question. How do I measure my own worth?
Top of mind, I immediately thought of my current financial standing. Added up my physical assets. Computed my income. Surveyed my over-all lifestyle. But I then thought that that shouldn’t be it. So, I moved on to my educational background, what sort of …read more

When I talked to you guys about handling rejection, I sort of thinking about this sentiment I heard last night — that meeting people online is far easier than meeting people at a bar or a diner or a bookshop.
How much of this is true, I wonder?
I can only guess that a lot of individuals find refuge by being on the internet. People tend to be less uptight and accommodating in places where people congregate online, may it be in chat rooms, dating sites, social networking site or even blogs. You have to, otherwise, no one will come visiting your …read more

We’re now up to mistake #5 – Misreading The Important “Signals” That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves.  Most women don’t pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.  The signals men send have 4 main levels – According to Christian Carter:
1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life – stability, confidence, direction
2) Emotional: Whether or not he’s “emotionally available”
3) Physical: If he’s attracted to you… and for what reasons
4) Love State: If he’s open to building and growing a …read more

As previously mentioned, I’m no good when it comes to flirting. Too paranoid. Too dense. Too gullible. All at the wrong places [so to speak]. That’s why I’m here to educate you. [coughs] Before any of you react violently — haven’t you heard of the saying, “Those who can’t do, teach.”? Heehee.
Kidding aside, I know flirting is one of the fundamental things you do as a single looking for a mate. Uh, I don’t want to talk about the not-so-single individuals who still practice it seemingly like a sport. Dear me.
Getting on with the topic then.
It’s a common misconception that …read more

Just how comfortable are you when it comes to talking about your sensuality? Alright. Not talking but expressing non-verbally?
It can be considered a taboo in most cultures — it certainly is in mine! — particularly in women. We blush. We squirm. We simply don’t speak of it outside our closest friends’ confidences. It’s something most women are uncomfortable showing, much less talk about, with men.
But the thing is, the more comfortable you are in being sensual, the more sexy you become in the eyes of others. I’m not talking about blatant, vomit-worthy sexy. Rather, I’m referring to the complete freedom …read more