Let’s be realistic and accept that couples fight.  If you have never had a disagreement with your partner then you probably aren’t expressing yourself or discussing serious issues.  Fights are so difficult but, if done right, they can have extremely successful results.  You want to feel comfortable expressing your viewpoint and you want to stand up for yourself, but what should you do if you get in a fight?

I just read the most amazing advice from the fabulous Dr. Phil about “How to Fight Fair.”  I strongly advise every couple to read these tips and discuss them together so you …read more

We were given 10 steps to resolution as a recipe for resolving conflict in our Vow Healthy Marriage Program.
 I’ve copied them here for you. We put ours on the fridge as a cheat sheet.

1. Set time and place for discussion.
Define the problem or issue of disagreement.
How do you each contribute to the problem?
List past attempts to resolve the issue that were not successful.
Brainstorm. List all possible solutions.
Discuss and evaluate these possible solutions.
Agree on one solution to try.
Agree on how each individual will work toward this solution.
Set up another meeting. Discuss your progress.
Reward each other when you both accomplish a solution.