You must have heard this advice before, right?
“You should never go to bed angry.”
This is one of the marriage fallacies that I believed in for the first few months – but quickly grew to realize that it is like telling someone to keep driving when they  are tired. If you are arguing right before bed, then that was just poor form on your part. But it happens – sometimes because one of you just felt like you had to get something off your chest. Other times, because something happened unexpectedly that’s out of your control.
Either way, you’re arguing…and you’re tired. …read more

After being together for a certain period of time, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut. Weeks and weeks went by before I realized that every weekend we were just…hanging out. On the couch, in a restaurant, at the movies.
Hanging out.
What happened to romance? Spontaneity? There’s nothing spontaneous about hanging out. It just is…and that can get a little bit tiring after a while.
Naturally it took me a few weeks to bottle up my frustration before finally exploding in the middle of a Friends rerun. “What are we doing? This isn’t fun? Is this all we’re ever going to …read more

No, we’re not fighting. And I don’t think that either of us has been kicked to the couch even over a fight….yet….

No, Bald Man’s been sick, and I don’t think I would get any sleep trying to cope with his feverish self. So I took the bed in the attic for a couple of nights, and may choose the couch tonight.
When we were first married, I don’t think I would’ve left the room when he was sick. I mean, I would have left it during the day, but not at night. I …read more